3m pp and feeling neglected

My husbands been really mean to me. He gave me a dirty look tonight while i was eating ice cream and he yelled at me earlier. Im just so upset. Ive been trying so hard with everything and balancing a new job and i feel so lonely in my marriage.

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How would you approach this?

In the park with my 6 year old and the sprinklers are on. She's playing in them and there's a bucket (like a sand bucket) on the ground, so she picks it up and starts filling it with water.
When we were about to leave the park, my daughter says "that lady over there was so rude to me. She told me if I want to play with the buckets that I should save my money and order it or buy it because it's not that expensive" . If you know anything about me, you'd have to assume I would say something because are you fucking joking lmao.

So I approach her and ask "did you tell my daughter that she should save her money and buy her own bucket?" And she kind of laughs like that was ridiculous and then says I told her these buckets belong to these kids and that it isn't hers and they're not very expensive on Amazon if she wants to get one.
I replied "she's a child."
Then she says "well I told her no and she kept stealing them and filling them up"
So I replied "stealing?" to which she said "well not stealing, but she played with it after I told her no"
I said "it's a bucket" and she continues defending her stance and I just okayed her like 3 times and left her talking. The words I wanted to use just weren't worth it. And it was so hot and we were already leaving the park. But oooooh I wish I witnessed the exchange because wtf? And my daughter is super sweet and friendly, so if she was a little jerk I'd understand more.
And what kind of parent says you can't play with my kid's things? A water bucket? In the park? Really? Like it's your right, but grow up?

Found out my husband (sorta) cheated

My husbands phone broke last week and he finally took it to Apple yesterday and they were able to fix/recover everything. We’ve never had secrets or hidden things and I have always had access to his phone so last night after he went to bed I went into his hidden photos to make sure my sexy photos I’ve sent were still on his phone or if I needed to send him new ones.

And boy was I SHOCKED. He had THOUSANDS of AI pictures of naked women just all over it from like 2024-mid2025. And if that isn’t bad enough, he had *recent* screenshots of pictures and videos of naked women off Snapchat stories. Starting sometime at the end of summer last year all the way through my pregnancy early this year and during my miscarriage. Even specific ones on the day of our anniversary and 2 days after we lost our baby.

I have felt completely gutted ever since I found them (on accident I was not snooping). My entire body has felt heavy and sick and shaky. I feel so disgusted that these skinny women with huge boobs and butts are all over his phone when I am the biggest I’ve ever been after losing our second child. The worst part is these women look nothing like me. I confronted him and he deleted everything but he didn’t see it as cheating even though I’ve specifically said it before that I’m not okay with it and that if he wants time to himself (which I support) he should only look at pictures of me. I feel like our whole relationship and marriage is just a huge joke. And now I am questioning everything.

If you’ve made it this far, thank you but am I valid for feeling this way? I know I should be but this just took me for complete surprise and I just feel broken.

For the record I don’t want to end our marriage but I also don’t know how to get past this (yet) and I told him if he ever does this again then I’m done.

Hot weather plans

What's everyone been up to today/have planned for tomorrow?

I need ideas as I'm going stir crazy at home with our nearly 2 year old!!

We have a small.paved courtyard but no proper garden, so it makes things like paddling pools really tricky!

Throw out your ideas! Thank you

Roommates or lovers

Is anyone feeling like even though you and your husband do stuff and all of that, that you still feel like roommates sometimes? Like, you aren’t as connected and feel like you need more time together? I’m still healing postpartum so we don’t really do stuff plus having a newborn, it’s tough to find time. I just feel like I’m missing him constantly even when he’s next to me and that we are starting to grow apart. I know he loves me and I love him, I just want more time with him. It’s hard with 2 kids and constantly needing to do things, plus being exhausted from a new baby…idk. Anyone else having these issues/do you know how to fix it?

Baby weaning

Hi, just wondering if anyone has started introducing solids to their babies yet? Is 4 months too early for purées?

Men.... 🙄

My daughter was sitting happily with my husband as I was getting ready to leave to get our son from daycare. He has night shift so he hadn't spent any time with her at all today. So I said for him to spend time with her while I run to get our son. He looks at me and said "how am I supposed to cook if I have her?"
Like seriously??? What do you think I do when you're sleeping or not home? Not eat all day?
I said "there is her high chair and her playpen" and then opened the door. As I'm walking out I hear him muttering about having to get ready for work.

My son's daycare isn't far. Free Bird is a longer song than the drive there. I was gone no more than 25 mins in total. I also had mostly cooked his dinner/breakfast (corned beef hash, fried garlic rice, he just needed to heat and cook eggs).
I get home and he has our daughter in her high chair with his phone playing the wiggles (not a big deal, but I'm not buying him a new phone if the baby chucks it).

Why do they act like this?
He is a great father and a wonderful husband, but not everything needs to be solved by sticking a screen in front of them.