‘Cry it out’ in my arms

My one month old sometimes cannot be settled despite having all their needs met. Is it ok if I hold him in my arms/on my chest and let him ‘cry it out’? I feel like I’m burning out trying to do all sorts of acrobatic manoeuvres to calm him down. I DO NOT believe in letting a baby cry it out alone/self-soothe. I think it’s harmful and I never want to do that but I was wondering if letting him cry whilst on me was any different because he can feel he’s not alone? Or should I always take all possible measures to get him to stop crying?

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Honestly sometimes that's all you can do. Don't beat yourself up about it. At least you are comforting them with your body and smell. At the end of the day we all need a break for a bit and at least they are not alone. Just make sure you have a fan on or windows open as in this weather your baby can overheat and your body heat will add to that.

Cry it out is different to what you’re explaining, don’t worry x

Sometimes a good cuddle and maybe a feed is all they need. I've had to do this before with my little boy.

Same as you I would try everything possible and find myself getting a bit stressed as nothing was working, so I'd make him a bottle, get comfortable on the sofa and give him cuddles till he calmed down, then offer the bottle to which he would drink and fall asleep on me 🩵

You've got this mumma 🥰🥰

I was thinking about this as I'm finding it with my 1 week old. Turns out her soothing activity is swaying and finger suckling. Now I found this we alternate between these until it's around time for a feed. It hasn't stopped the crying but it's limited it so she's not distraught

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