Pls be honest with me

I have a toddler who’s 17 months. The past month most days I’ve been SO overwhelmed, he’s been making constant winging noises and just wants to be held all the time and I feel terrible (so please don’t be too harsh as I’m fully aware and wish I wasn’t like this) but I lose my patience and end up screaming like ‘oh my god just give me a minute!!’ Or just getting agitated and I’m so worried this will affect his nervous system or he’ll hate me or be wary of me 😭
My brother shouted at his dog on the weekend and my son didn’t react, my brother then told me ‘well you must shout a lot around him then and he’s just used to it because he hasn’t cried’
I do it all alone 24 hours a day 25/7 and I just feel burnt out recently. I don’t want to play with him all day, I don’t want to be climbed over or hung off of all day the dogs bark constantly I’m overwhelmed and sometimes I just lose my cool.
Am I bad and will this affect him? Like his nervous system 😢
Sometimes he’ll cry and walk away from me which crushes me. But he’s fine with me after and will come for a cuddle.

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Please comment how it could affect him or why you think I’m a bad mother because of this.

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Sorry I accidentally pressed the bad mother one, as I was scrolling down. You are not a bad mum, you are overstimulated and you’ve probably hit a wall. You are not alone, many mums feel like this from time to time. Do you have a support network? Do you have anyone who can have him for a few hours, a night every now and then, even once a month? It’s really important you get you time, this will be the main problem not getting any you time. When your son naps what do you do? I recommend designating time everyday to do something for you when your son is alseep, something that makes you happy or rested. I would say try to take some deep breaths when you are overwhelmed, take the breaths before you respond or talk to your son. This will help you respond in a calmer way. Sorry to hear you are going through this, definitely try to cut out more time for yourself!

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You’re not a bad mom at all! We all have our days . I’m sure at the end of the day, he knows his mama loves him which if you’re feeling this way you obviously do love and care about your son. Not a bad mom :)

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