Relationship Advice!!!

I think this is when you’d have to really ask yourself, what IS he contributing to my life in a meaningfully positive way other than just companionship? It’s one thing to be struggling financially if you’re actually doing your best to work hard and stay motivated, but I hate to say it your man sounds kinda….bummish.
Is he struggling with any mental health issues/depression or is he just content with being lazy? Either way, neither are legit excuses to drag you down with him.

I wouldn’t leave because he doesn’t have a job, but I would leave if there’s not adequate effort being put in to get one from him.
Don’t be an enabler by applying to jobs for him or calling jobs to ask if they’re hiring on his behalf. I know you want to help, but you’re actually doing the opposite. He has to learn responsibility and chances are if he doesn’t have the motivation to apply for jobs, he won’t have the motivation to keep one either.
You did say he had 3 interviews. 3 interviews in 6 months unemployment is not that bad in this job market but if he only applied himself to those 3 jobs, that’s bad. He should be applying to jobs like it’s his full time job, and also doing Amazon flex, DoorDash etc. meantime.
Also sounds like some therapy could be helpful for him too, but if he’s opposed to that as well, you know… only so much you can do.

He may be depressed, the job market is really really bad, my friend has been jobless and applying for 3 years and keeps getting rejected. Everyone i know is trying to move companies and keep getting rejected too. He’s probably given up thinking “what’s the point I’m going to get rejected again”. He knows he has a family to look after and I know he definitely does not want to live with your parents. Don’t stop talking to him about it, motivate him but don’t push yourself away from him because of this because he probably feels like he has failed being a partner and dad because of this and is trying to mask it.

Maybe you could both sit down and look together.

May I ask what his field of work is? And what area are you in?

I've been there... In my case my spouse did try but got declined over n over. When I tried even I got declined over and over. It shattered his world he got really depressed. It was extremely hard for him to open up to do anything to talk about it, but it went down bad. Yes he got into gaming too after... I did a lot of things to help too...
I'd say don't wait for him to help yourself.

In my case it was a little bit complicated, I had health issues, but I'd say maybe you're gonna have to find a job if you haven't already. Just let go of expectations...he's showing you exactly the choices and options he's going for now...

It's up to him if he wants to do something about it. I learned to let go of most of my negative emotions about it because, he chose and just was in a dark place. He needed the light and didn't follow it. No matter the reassurance he just felt lost. He needed help but wouldn't follow the help.
Expecting anything out of him anymore would not have helped and that broke my heart.

Talk to him about your feelings genuinely honestly - Ik you said you did, but just a few more times. With love n care genuinely from your heart follow your gut instinct on what to say.
To this day I still have that resentment... "Because if I were you, I would have never made the choices you made because of how I loved you and how I wanted us to be somewhere better."
What matters is, what actions are healthy and can help moving forward now. Sometimes we just let go and do what's good.
Even if it's without him...

Message me if you want to talk about it more personally with me at all 😢 I've been there...

Only he can do something about his situation, you dont need to be taking care of him as well as baby.

I would check in with him and his MH. He maybe depressed, after loosing his job then a baby coming he could have PPD, yes men can get it too x