leave him or stay?

my boyfriend doesnt love me the way i want to be. we have been together almost 2 years with a 8 m old. we argued a lot but i loved him and didnt want to get an abortion, so we made it happen andhe bought us a beautiful house and made me a sahm.

he’s very lazy, and a bit of a dirtbag in the way he thinks and acts (not trying to sound mean). like wannabe rapper, social media guy, doesnt take care of himself, thinks the woman should take care of baby and man works. he doesnt do anything around the house basically a manchild and he hardly works, his money comes from him getting lucky with stocks. we are just so different. i like intelligence, someone to care about the books i’m reading, physical touch, puts in effort to make me feel loved, high sex drive. but he was always very affectionate which is very important to me, now hes not and says its because hes comfortable in the relationship. he also has said the worst of the worst to me when arguing, then says he has to work on saying things he doesnt mean, and its up to me if i stay or leave. says its my fault if our family breaks up.

we just fought bc he responded to a hate message from a stranger trying to make the guy mad “your sister just graduated?👀” and “your mom would let me if i tried” which felt disrespectful and just gross to me. he said im so insecure and thats how guys talk. he has been shady in the past. he’s more gross with the way he talks ab women which is how his dad is, and he thinks its normal. we argue a lot and he says i expect a lot. i tend to get a little difficult in my own ways but im just not sure whats me being postpartum, or when you know when to leave a relationship. we have a family and house and im confused.

**thinking rationally i also know so many men are disappointing and tbh he takes care of all finances and im exhausted enough living w him, that if i move out right mow it may be harder on my own, plus i still love him and would be dealing with heartbreak probably. idk if i should wait until im done breastfeeding to see how it is then

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Nurseries closing (UK based) but still having to pay!

Would love to know some thoughts because I’m torn on it. Don’t want my little one put at risk in an unsafe environment but also why aren’t we better equipped within the nursery settings? We’ve had enough heatwaves in the UK now to know. Thoughts?

How would you approach this?

In the park with my 6 year old and the sprinklers are on. She's playing in them and there's a bucket (like a sand bucket) on the ground, so she picks it up and starts filling it with water.
When we were about to leave the park, my daughter says "that lady over there was so rude to me. She told me if I want to play with the buckets that I should save my money and order it or buy it because it's not that expensive" . If you know anything about me, you'd have to assume I would say something because are you fucking joking lmao.

So I approach her and ask "did you tell my daughter that she should save her money and buy her own bucket?" And she kind of laughs like that was ridiculous and then says I told her these buckets belong to these kids and that it isn't hers and they're not very expensive on Amazon if she wants to get one.
I replied "she's a child."
Then she says "well I told her no and she kept stealing them and filling them up"
So I replied "stealing?" to which she said "well not stealing, but she played with it after I told her no"
I said "it's a bucket" and she continues defending her stance and I just okayed her like 3 times and left her talking. The words I wanted to use just weren't worth it. And it was so hot and we were already leaving the park. But oooooh I wish I witnessed the exchange because wtf? And my daughter is super sweet and friendly, so if she was a little jerk I'd understand more.
And what kind of parent says you can't play with my kid's things? A water bucket? In the park? Really? Like it's your right, but grow up?

Found out my husband (sorta) cheated

My husbands phone broke last week and he finally took it to Apple yesterday and they were able to fix/recover everything. We’ve never had secrets or hidden things and I have always had access to his phone so last night after he went to bed I went into his hidden photos to make sure my sexy photos I’ve sent were still on his phone or if I needed to send him new ones.

And boy was I SHOCKED. He had THOUSANDS of AI pictures of naked women just all over it from like 2024-mid2025. And if that isn’t bad enough, he had *recent* screenshots of pictures and videos of naked women off Snapchat stories. Starting sometime at the end of summer last year all the way through my pregnancy early this year and during my miscarriage. Even specific ones on the day of our anniversary and 2 days after we lost our baby.

I have felt completely gutted ever since I found them (on accident I was not snooping). My entire body has felt heavy and sick and shaky. I feel so disgusted that these skinny women with huge boobs and butts are all over his phone when I am the biggest I’ve ever been after losing our second child. The worst part is these women look nothing like me. I confronted him and he deleted everything but he didn’t see it as cheating even though I’ve specifically said it before that I’m not okay with it and that if he wants time to himself (which I support) he should only look at pictures of me. I feel like our whole relationship and marriage is just a huge joke. And now I am questioning everything.

If you’ve made it this far, thank you but am I valid for feeling this way? I know I should be but this just took me for complete surprise and I just feel broken.

For the record I don’t want to end our marriage but I also don’t know how to get past this (yet) and I told him if he ever does this again then I’m done.

Advice on Relationship.

Hi Everyone, I’m first time mum at 31 years old and just need some Advice on my relationship whether it’s healthy relationship and it is controlling?

Since we had our daughter together,
I feel like there’s more control now than before like having a go at me how I treat our daughter and doesn’t like that I have opinion on things I feel like I’m walking on egg shells most of the time but it’s ok for him to tell me few weeks ago if we split up our daughter is living with him but I can still come and see her but that’s not for him to decide! He’s grabbed my neck before in argument and he throws things when he’s in heated argument with me in front of our daughter, one time he throw controller at my knee then says stop been pathetic that shouldn’t hurt, When we have Arguments he calls me names like prick, thick cunt, spacker how can you call woman them words except me to be ok with it! Behind closed doors he’s different person to in public but ages ago he kicked off in pub when we was having meal out with our child because I told him he was taking control because he just took my phone off me without asking then started crying because how he reacted I just felt embarrassed to be honest. It is all in my head or is this relationship one sided and controlling?

Hot weather plans

What's everyone been up to today/have planned for tomorrow?

I need ideas as I'm going stir crazy at home with our nearly 2 year old!!

We have a small.paved courtyard but no proper garden, so it makes things like paddling pools really tricky!

Throw out your ideas! Thank you

Rusks

I’m seeing a lot of posts about weaning early and the types of foods being given.
If you are going to start giving food early against NHS advice, please at least research the ingredients.

Rusks main ingredients are flour, sugar, and palm oil. You are replacing nutrients for absolute rubbish at such an early age. Same with baby porridge, full of oil and nasties. Please do your research on what you are feeding your babies, there are so many better alternatives if you feel you must give food before 6 months