Advice on Relationship.

Hi Everyone, I’m first time mum at 31 years old and just need some Advice on my relationship whether it’s healthy relationship and it is controlling?

Since we had our daughter together,
I feel like there’s more control now than before like having a go at me how I treat our daughter and doesn’t like that I have opinion on things I feel like I’m walking on egg shells most of the time but it’s ok for him to tell me few weeks ago if we split up our daughter is living with him but I can still come and see her but that’s not for him to decide! He’s grabbed my neck before in argument and he throws things when he’s in heated argument with me in front of our daughter, one time he throw controller at my knee then says stop been pathetic that shouldn’t hurt, When we have Arguments he calls me names like prick, thick cunt, spacker how can you call woman them words except me to be ok with it! Behind closed doors he’s different person to in public but ages ago he kicked off in pub when we was having meal out with our child because I told him he was taking control he just took my phone off me then started crying I just felt embarrassed to be honest. It is all in my head or is this relationship one sided and controlling?

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Partner not come home on our anniversary what should I do ?

It was mine and my partners 3 year anniversary yesterday and he’s not returned home after work , he was only meant to be doing two small jobs I last spoke to him at 2pm and he said he’d be back soon . I missed his call at 7pm
And I’ve heard nothing since and his phone is off .

I’m currently awake as I can’t sleep with worry , I’m wondering if I should contact the friend he was working with on social media ( I’ve only met him briefly a few times ) or would this look weird and crazy ?

I don’t know where his last job was so un sure if I should call hospitals or police stations ?

He has never done his before and especially to not come home on our anniversary?

Would you be mad 🤬

My boy is 1 next week and I was wanting to take him for his first hair cut this weekend with his dad.
Mil looked after him yesterday while we were at work and she has cut his hair herself!!!
I was not asked if this would be ok, nor was I told it had been done afterwards.
I think she thought I wouldn’t notice.
There are a lot of trust issues with her not telling me what he eats / drinks while he’s in her care and it just feels like she’s constantly trying to spite me!

I think his mum and dad should have been there for his first ever hair cut and she has taken that from us.

Anyone else experienced this?

Me and my partner got together when my son was 4 and he’s now 9, my son in my eyes is a typical average boy, won’t speak to us when he’s tired, coming across moody and is always slightly off when he comes back from his dad. But he’s like it with both me and my partner, however my partner gets shitty over it but with me, like today my son came back from his dad before school and wasn’t very talkative or said bye when my partner went to work and when he walked out the door he scarcely said “bye, have a good day” and said he doesn’t know why he wastes his breath.
I’m close to breaking point, either to cry or scream. I don’t take offence to how my son is, he’s always been off coming back from his dad and he’s been going over every Tuesday since 9 month old so I guess I’m use to it, I just don’t know what to do

Day out in the heatwave

Today’s my mums birthday we kinda said it would be nice to go to one of the national trust properties near our home. It’s got a play area and loads places to sit with a picnic blanket. But it’s still very very hot. Do you think it’s silly to take my almost two year old out for the day??? Obviously we’d have lots of sun screen, water pack up lunch and the pram for naps. But I’m still wondering if I’m bonkers to do it.

My mannnn

I’m sorry yall but I just love my man so much. I feel like no one ever posts about how good their man is. Obviously I’m very fortunate to have a great guy in my life as that isn’t the case for everyone but,, I know not everyone’s man is all bad. I just think he is so perfect. I have a daughter of my own and I’m due with our son in 4 weeks and I’m just so excited for him. He’s so amazing with his baby cousins and he is just looking forward to being a boy dad. He’s already an amazing father. He’s always going out of his way to take care of me whether it’s helping me out the bath, shaving my legs for me since it is a lot to bend down, cooking when he can tell I’m not feeling the best, running to the gas station even at 2-3am when we don’t have something I’m craving, etc. I just feel so fortunate and I wish more moms would post positive appreciation for their man. I mean he’s a hard worker and yet he is insisting on doing nights when the baby is here so that I can get my sleep. I don’t think we ever fight about anything and if we do “fight” it just becomes a joke cause we realize we have nothing to ever disagree over. Ugh he’s just so cute and loving and amazing and I can’t say enough about him. That’s all. I just wanted to talk about him cause he is sleeping like a lil baby next to me wanting his bag rubbed with my nails and I can’t aggressively squeeze his cheeks (any of them). I got most of it now 🥰❤️

Why?

Am I the only one who gets frustrated when relatives (male) are dismissive of postpartum struggles or try to act like they have the same struggles as women. I'm not saying they don't have any, sleep deprivation all of a sudden, emotional impact from bonding or struggling to bond with child, financial load etc. I'm not ignoring those. But when talking in messages with my dad (had 4 kids). He moaned about waking at 2am and up at 6am in this heat...I wrote back how my LO was up at 9pm/12am/3am/630, 3 of those for feeds (BF). His response "yes, it's hard work, i was one of those soldiers". Errr, tell me sir when you started breastfeeding. Maybe you were up helping with changes etc (sure my mum would say different, not an amicable separation). But you are not physically feeding multiple times in the night and day. My hubby is great he'll get up and grab baby so I can wap me tit out and dream feed without stirring him. But once his head hits that pillow he's out for the count. Where it takes me time to turn my brain off if I wake to much in-between feeds. I just can help be irked that my dad's trying to be all relatable, when I don't think my parents had healthy communication as is. He also worked 12hr shifts so how much was he there in the early days? I obviously don't know. But the pressure on mums day in day out shouldn't be popped in the same boat i don't think. Any ways😂..Just a rant!