leave him or stay?
my boyfriend doesnt love me the way i want to be. we have been together almost 2 years with a 8 m old. we argued a lot but i loved him and didnt want to get an abortion, so we made it happen andhe bought us a beautiful house and made me a sahm.
he’s very lazy, and a bit of a dirtbag in the way he thinks and acts (not trying to sound mean). like wannabe rapper, social media guy, doesnt take care of himself, thinks the woman should take care of baby and man works. he doesnt do anything around the house basically a manchild and he hardly works, his money comes from him getting lucky with stocks. we are just so different. i like intelligence, someone to care about the books i’m reading, physical touch, puts in effort to make me feel loved, high sex drive. but he was always very affectionate which is very important to me, now hes not and says its because hes comfortable in the relationship. he also has said the worst of the worst to me when arguing, then says he has to work on saying things he doesnt mean, and its up to me if i stay or leave. says its my fault if our family breaks up.
i truly think he wants this but wasnt raised to know like literally how to be a stand up family man.
we just fought bc he responded to a hate message from a stranger trying to make the guy mad “your sister just graduated?👀” and “your mom would let me if i tried” which felt disrespectful and just gross to me. he said im so insecure and thats how guys talk. he has been shady in the past. he’s more gross with the way he talks ab women which is how his dad is, and he thinks its normal. we argue a lot and he says i expect a lot. i tend to get a little difficult in my own ways but im just not sure whats me being postpartum, or when you know when to leave a relationship. we have a family and house and im confused.
**thinking rationally i also know so many men are disappointing and tbh he takes care of all finances and im exhausted enough living w him, that if i move out right mow it may be harder on my own, plus i still love him and would be dealing with heartbreak probably. idk if i should wait until im done breastfeeding to see how it is then
Daycare anxiety ??
FTM here… tell me it gets easier, or at least tell me I’m not the only one feeling this way. 🥺
My 3-month-old starts an in-home daycare on July 1st, and I am an emotional, anxious mess. The provider seems incredibly kind, cares for her own children, and has experience with other little ones, but handing over my whole world to someone else is so hard.
Working moms—how did you get through this transition? Did the anxiety get better?
I’m trying to stay positive and trust that she’ll care for my daughter with love and kindness. She’s even offered to let me stop by during my lunch breaks to check in, which I’m so grateful for. Still, my mama heart is struggling.
If I could be a stay-at-home mom, I would, but that’s just not in the cards for our family right now. Our relatives all work full-time too, so daycare is really our only option.
Just looking for some reassurance from moms who’ve been there. ❤️
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