How do you become more present?

Im struggling with balancing my 17 mo, the house, my husbands needs etc

I feel like i am in pure survival mode 24/7 where is the joy? Don't get me wrong i get snippets when my kid laughs and we read etc but alot of the time I feel like im so stretched and not enjoying the moment.

Im a sahm now. Toddler doesn't walk yet and naps once a day for 45 mins. I have zero time tp myself. No family and husband works full time so leaves the house 7am and back at 7pm so I do bedtime every night.

How are other mums in a similar situation handling things? Do you feel present or like you black out all day and just go into autopilot get shit done and before you know it you're up at 5am again

in our community

I need to get something off my chest i told my daughter to pee in the public pool. Not a friend’s pool but a big public pool splash park and I want to know if others do similar?

Before you castrate me in the comments I only did it because i was there with 4 little kids as the only adult and I didn’t want to drag all 4 wet kids out and into a gross public bathroom when we had just arrived and I made them all use the bathroom before we started playing but you know how kids are. Anyways she refused to do it even though she’s only 4, she kept saying that people are going to know and I was like JUST DO IT 🫣 I ended up having to take all 4 of them into the bathroom because she was too scared to pee in the pool but handling multiple wet kiddos in a setting like that is my least favorite thing and I think the chlorine and stuff just kills most of the germs and also if there’s lots of kids there’s bound to be pee in it from others anyways

I can't cope with my toddler anymore

My little boy is 22 months and has become an absolute nightmare. All day moaning and whining. Screaming and furious tantrums over bath time, nappy change, clothes on, clothes off, bed time, midnight wakes, food, drinking water.....everything is a screaming battle with hitting, throwing things and kicking
In-between these he can be really sweet but it's 10-15 meltdowns a day now...i am on the absolute edge...exhausted and walking on eggshels and trying to take care of his personal hygiene and food needs etc while he fights me and his dad tooth and nail
Should i be looking into behavioural problems or is this standard behaviour? It doesn't seem like it to me...my mum says i was never like this

Am I wrong

Am I wrong for telling my mom to stop telling me how to parent and running my household cause she doesn’t live here and she tells me I’m always want to argue with her cause I tell her to stop telling me how to raise my kids cause everyone else saying I’m doing a good job and having one kid that’s autistic and I have 3 kids everyone say I’m doing a good jobs with them but she the one that wants everyone to be so perfect. It really pisses me off so I hang up on her

Relationship Advice!!!

Guys I really need some advice. Me and my partner have been together for just over a year and for half that time he’s been jobless. At the start it was easy to have empathy for him as he got let go because the buisness he was working for had been bankrupt and shut down… but it’s been 6 months now and he still doesn’t have a job and has only been to like 3 interviews. I thought his motivation would change when I had our baby 3 months ago but it hasn’t.
I’m starting to build up a lot of resentment towards him because I feel like he’s not putting in enough effort. We had to move in with my parents because we can’t afford to buy a house or even rent. I only have a couple thousand in my savings and he has basically nothing.

It’s not the fact that he doesn’t have a job that is annoying me it’s the lack of ambition and motivation that’s really making me resent him.
He’s also let himself go. He’s put on weight, he doesn’t follow basic hygiene unless I constantly remind him and he doesn’t help me with the baby unless I ask. He also plays video games 24/7.
I don’t know how to explain to him how important it is to find some motivation and work toward a goal.
I’ve tried being nice and gentle about it, I’ve tried being harsh and blunt, I’ve tried to apply for jobs for him and make calls for him to find him a job and i’ve tried to have open conversations about our goals in life and for our baby but nothing seems to work.

I’m not attracted to him anymore which breaks my heart because I love him so much but whenever he tried to initiate sex my body closes up and I’m not interested at all. I’m also so snappy toward him all the time because of all the build up resentment I have it’s hard not to snap at him for little things.
I’m at a loss here and I have no idea what to do moving forward.
If anyone has been through something similar or has any advice please please please comment!!!

Intimacy after having a baby

I’m 5 months in to motherhood and I have no urges to be intimate with my partner at all yet, I’m tired so busy 24/7 I feel like I’m letting him down but honestly my baby needs so much from me bouncing/rocking to sleep at night will only contact nap during the day I’m exhausted, is anyone else the same? I used to have a fairly good sex drive and I know the change is upsetting for my partner I love him so much but I’m just drained by the time we get any time alone I’m so touched out even his hand on my leg drives me nuts I just don’t want to be touched anymore by then.

I need ideas!

What’s everyone feeling there 8 month babies in terms of solids. Looking for breakfast, lunch and dinner ideas!