This is my friendship application (kinda long post but whatever lol

•I’m 27 with two boys 4yrs&4mos (I don’t know why but I think that is cool)
•I have a college degree in CRJ couple licenses and certificates although I’m a SAHM I’m educated
•I like to stay in and enjoy the rainy days but my boys have me wanting to adventure places and I’d love someone to do that with
•I drive a traverse so I have 3 extra seats for adventure buddies less if we both have bulky stroller and one next to me for a momma to help pass snack and give back the paci back to one of our babies
•I typically have two of most baby things my apt is two story and I’m lazy when it comes to bringing stuff up and down so yeah two makes sense but it’ll help if we have same age babies and wanna just sit in and watch our show we both hate the same character on
•I am a pumping momma I don’t cry it out and I gentle parent but I yell sometimes lol
•I am okay with the real and raw of motherhood PP has hair falling out of your head but growing in other places okay that’s being a mom it’s new it’s hard and it’s OKAYYYYYYY you’re good enough and just human
•I have a coffee problem so yes I’d love it if you waited for me to make a coffee or we stop to grab one before we head out and yes I’d still like you if you are a matcha or green tea girly instead
•I’m going to either be 10 mins early or 30mins late no in between
•you don’t have to clean before I come over and if you wanna come over in yesterdays spit up shirt because you’re drowning but wanna be out of your house come it’s a safe space to be momma and human with me
•I like to talk but if we go days without convo pick it up text me again it’s okay
• i also want a friend I can send random snaps too of cool crap I wanna show someone lol like if my coffee is pretty or if I found cute sidewalk art some baby did at the park and I want the same show me random crap
** I don’t know what else to type lol so that is all submit applications of friendship into the inbox lol let’s talk about something other than “baby do you need to potty? Wanna try before we leave? Where is your shoe? Why do you have your pants on backwards?” Oh and my current favorite because we are in a new phase “why are you naked?” Or “no you can not go outside like that crazy boy lol” because he’s four and that’s for some reason how potty training went clothes came off and pee went into the potty and yes it stresses me out and YES I want tips on how to fix it lol 😂

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Is one lollipop a day okay for a 3-year-old?

I'm just trying not to give in to every single want and need for sugar !!

Leaving baby overnight with grandparents

My husband and I have a wedding in London (I live in Newcastle) in August where we will be away for 2 nights. My son will be almost 9 months by then. I’m nervous about being so far away and leaving my son at my in laws for the first night. Naturally I feel more comfortable with my mum but she can only look after him one of the nights. Is this something I just need to try and lean into or is 9 months still quite young to leave a baby overnight? I feel like there’s so much to prepare and think about and they just don’t know him as well and his cues etc. There’s also the fear and anxiety of something happening and not being able to get back as quick as I’d like to. Anybody feel the same/can offer some advice?

Weddings and newborns

Ok so I’m having my first baby at the start of September . We also have two of my Mans best friends (and I’m close with their fiancés as well) getting married so soon after I give birth . First wedding is the first week of Novemeber and my in laws are watching our son for a few hours and I’ll leave the wedding early to come get him. I think he’s way too young for them to keep overnight nor is it something I’m going to be comfy with but they really seem to think it’s ok if they do . That’s just too young right ? And I’m breastfeeding (hopefully pumping into a bottle by then) . So I guess it depends on how pumping is going ?

Second wedding is the week before Christmas but this one is almost 2 hours away . I thought about having my dad or one of my in laws come with us and stay with our son at the hotel ? Or should I maybe skip that wedding ? These are really good friends of ours and I would hate to miss their weddings but my son needs to come first. I’m just not sure as a new mom where to draw that line with all of this happening in my sons super early months of life . My man would be going to both. These are friends of his since the first grade so if I skip the second it would just be me , the dog ,and baby boy for a night or two. Any insight or what would y’all do here ?

Arguing

Any other sahms really hitting head with partner mine truly believes because he provides he doesn’t have to do anything around the house including the babies stuff and if he does do it I have to ask twenty times and then he’ll ac as though he’s done something for me and rub it in my face. We’re arguing so much and today he said he’s the only reason the relationship is still going and even after we talk through an argument we argue ten mins later. I do find my delivery for my problems is wrong and that can cause arguments but in my defence I only get mad when it’s things I’ve asked for 100s of times. He makes sly comments so naturally too like his life was better before me he saved so much more money before me etc etc and he does this really annoying thing where when he’s asking me to pass him something he doesn’t even ask just points and gets frustrated when idk what he’s talking about all these stupid things just grate on me all day and then Icl I do blow a fuse sometimes but we just argue so much idk what to do.

BLW finger food ideas?

It's my second babe, first was a breeze but I've got such anxiety this time. Don't want it to hold baby back from eating!

Any inspo what we giving?

I've done celery, cucumber, omelette, melty stick crisps, strawberry, and all the mix/thick and stage 2/3 purees.

What other idea are there for chewing/BLW foods? For starting easy and slow... 🥲
Babe has egg and dairy allergy!

How do you become more present?

Im struggling with balancing my 17 mo, the house, my husbands needs etc

I feel like i am in pure survival mode 24/7 where is the joy? Don't get me wrong i get snippets when my kid laughs and we read etc but alot of the time I feel like im so stretched and not enjoying the moment.

Im a sahm now. Toddler doesn't walk yet and naps once a day for 45 mins. I have zero time tp myself. No family and husband works full time so leaves the house 7am and back at 7pm so I do bedtime every night.

How are other mums in a similar situation handling things? Do you feel present or like you black out all day and just go into autopilot get shit done and before you know it you're up at 5am again