House hygiene, helppp!!!!

Hi guys, maybe abit of a shameful thing to post, hence the incognito, but I’d love some advise please.
Growing up both my parents worked 24/7 to be able to provide for us, meaning house work always fell by the way side, it’s not until I’m now a parent, and have limited time, that I realise I don’t think I’m keeping my house as clean as possible; and I really put it down to living in a pretty grubby house growing up, and never really being taught how to clean? It was fine pre baby as I had all the time in the world and was out the house 99% of the time so it was barely lived in.

We can’t afford a cleaner, but I always feel like my house could be cleaner, but I don’t really know where I’m going wrong…

Can people please drop their cleaning routines, advice, recommendations etc.

Thank you, a sincerely overwhelmed and slightly depressed first time mum xx

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Is it just me starting to look at family and friends different??

So I’m living in a domestic violence situation and I have a 9 month old son.ive been dealing with this since I returned from the hospital with him.my husband isn’t much help with the baby.most of my family aren’t help either.and I’m also just feeling feeling like nobody is taking anything but themselves seriously.everybody is only worried about themselves and there own personal life but I bet you if something bad where to happen to me or my baby during this time they will regret not taking our situation more seriously and prioritizing it over whatever there concerns are.when I needed childcare so I can work and save to move out they where no help.they won’t co-sign on a apartment or put themselves on a lease for me,despite me not ever asking them for anything this far and being responsible.like is your credit being good worth my life?? My brother complained because I was asking him for money.keep in mind he’s a truck driver and makes alot of money and I ALWAYS paid him back.mit took me longer to pay him back around this time because I wasn’t working at the time.i lost my job when I was 8 months pregnant but I still paid him back every time.before j on got pregnant I stayed with a job and always paid him back early and asked to borrow litterly every blue moon and it was never more then $50 for my phone bill.he said him and his wife will keep my son for a month so I can get out the situation I’m in but brought him back maybe a week later because his wife was nauseous (which it seems like she always has something going on with her).my mothers sisters are even no help and one of them even told me that I gotta quit my job if I couldn’t find a babysitter.she said this in defense of my big sister who don’t even have her kids because she’s a drunk and not a good parent and she does drugs.keep in mind our mother passed away when i was only 10 or 11 back in 2012.so even with them knowing this and knowing that she would’ve been all the support I needed they still choose to act like this.am I being dramatic????

Arguing

Any other sahms really hitting head with partner mine truly believes because he provides he doesn’t have to do anything around the house including the babies stuff and if he does do it I have to ask twenty times and then he’ll ac as though he’s done something for me and rub it in my face. We’re arguing so much and today he said he’s the only reason the relationship is still going and even after we talk through an argument we argue ten mins later. I do find my delivery for my problems is wrong and that can cause arguments but in my defence I only get mad when it’s things I’ve asked for 100s of times. He makes sly comments so naturally too like his life was better before me he saved so much more money before me etc etc and he does this really annoying thing where when he’s asking me to pass him something he doesn’t even ask just points and gets frustrated when idk what he’s talking about all these stupid things just grate on me all day and then Icl I do blow a fuse sometimes but we just argue so much idk what to do.

I’m confused, need advice

I was told yesterday that after living in the same house for 3yrs with someone this is not my house. I help pay some bills, I cook, I clean, I have two jobs, i have a 10yr old son, I help decorate the house because he lets me.. I bought him two tvs and it’s still not my house because I only helped pay rent twice..?
so far this whole year I have been needing my money for family law cases and he’s don’t understand how I can’t even do things I want with the money that was owed them. meanwhile I’m needing up to $700 to travel by myself for this and we won’t come with me because he has work, even when I give him a 2 weeks notice. if he would help 400 of my dollars could go to rent along with anything else I make. I’m just not really feeling comfortable anymore because there’s lack of value and respect, I’m tired of hearing “I’m trying to love you” you either love me or you don’t. been thinking about moving out and forgetting this whole relationship. we met in 2017 and been really good friends and wanted to be more and I believe everything he told me was a lie.
he also vented to a girl about our problems, has a nickname for her in his phone while my contact is saved under my full name. he doesn’t respect my feeling or boundaries, never apologized for anythinggg, and when he talks about his I have to care, he always makes me apologize for being upset with what he did. he never believes anything is his fault.

What do you all make of this?

My husband made a really hurtful comment.

We argued this morning but more like he shouted at me because there was a stain on the sofa he thinks I spilled coffee I told him it’s not coffee.
We have 3 small children and I know it’s not great but mess and spillage will happen. He didn’t even ask me or have a conversation just kicked off like he always does without letting me get a word in. Basically talked at me not to me.

He said all I do is open my legs. Possibly referring to the sex we had last night.
He’s not spoken to me at all since this morning since he said that. I feel like that’s such a hurtful and nasty thing to say.

Not sure what to do I need advice

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I am a first time mum and no idea with anything to do with potty training and my health visitor suggested starting at 18 months.

Any tricks and tips? Is she too young?