I was told yesterday that after living in the same house for 3yrs with someone this is not my house. I help pay some bills, I cook, I clean, I have two jobs, i have a 10yr old son, I help decorate the house because he lets me.. I bought him two tvs and it’s still not my house because I only helped pay rent twice..?
so far this whole year I have been needing my money for family law cases and he’s don’t understand how I can’t even do things I want with the money that was owed them. meanwhile I’m needing up to $700 to travel by myself for this and we won’t come with me because he has work, even when I give him a 2 weeks notice. if he would help 400 of my dollars could go to rent along with anything else I make. I’m just not really feeling comfortable anymore because there’s lack of value and respect, I’m tired of hearing “I’m trying to love you” you either love me or you don’t. been thinking about moving out and forgetting this whole relationship. we met in 2017 and been really good friends and wanted to be more and I believe everything he told me was a lie.
he also vented to a girl about our problems, has a nickname for her in his phone while my contact is saved under my full name. he doesn’t respect my feeling or boundaries, never apologized for anythinggg, and when he talks about his I have to care, he always makes me apologize for being upset with what he did. he never believes anything is his fault.
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What are you confused about? He sounds awful. Are you able to leave?

This sounds very toxic and like you and your child deserve better. I'm assuming he's not the father of your son?
Your son doesn't need to see that the guy his mom chooses is hurting her. Making you apologize is crazy. I've been there. You dont need him. I don't know what makes you depend on him, but that's why he treats you this way

He sounds awful!!! You deserve better!!! So does your son

Please reread your post out loud to yourself. Take a second, read it again and think about what you just wrote. The answers are all in your post. LEAVE!

It sounds as tho he feels entitled, and like he is a manipulative man. “Trying to love you” is wild.
I’m sure he actually does understand how you can’t do the things you want with your money, it’s that he doesn’t care. Men aren’t stupid. They know what they’re doing.

Sis, its time to take off, if you are able to. If you have a safe and welcoming place, I would suggest leaving as soon as you can. It definitely sounds like he is being unfaithful. Listen to your body. Your physical symptoms when you are around him. Your body won't lie to you.