As a SAHM going out (could be for drinks, club) anywhere in the evening with your girls/me time) if childcare is taken care of do you ask or just tell your partner that you’re going out?

I run it by him. But not in a needing permission way. Because I’m going regardless.

I run it by him. He runs a business, it would be rude to just leave the house without asking if he’s okay with the kids for the evening and there’s no clashes.

He always says “you don’t have to ask me” but I think it’s polite to sense check with your partner. He might have made plans too or work gets in the way. Plus it’s safe to let them know where, when and who you are with.

He wouldn’t do that to me so I wouldn’t do that to him, it’s only polite and responsible.

Oh sorry I deleted my comment because you said SAHM and im not SAHM (i work 3 days). But still, i'd just let him know. I'd check he'll be home normal time on the days I've got plans because he can have emergencies at work. But we keep each other updated with things like that

Since my husband wouldn’t be doing the childcare I’d just tell him. The same way he tells me and doesn’t ask! Only difference is I have 2 children to think about 🙄