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How do you all feel if you’re with your partner and he looks at another woman in-front of you ?? And you can clearly tell he’s looking at their ass or chest? And it’s not just an instinct reaction because he doesn’t do it with all woman just certain ones. It hurts my feelings so bad it makes me feel so insecure and if I bring it up he gets mad.

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You are asking how do we feel in those situations? Of course absolutely nobody would like this! That’s extremely disrespectful!
How dare he gets angry at you when you bring it up? That’s not acceptable and you deserve so much better than this crap you call a partner!!
Start your escape plan, and leave him, you just live once, why on earth to waste your life with someone that doesn’t have the minimum respect for you?
My ex was exactly like that, thank God I broke up with him and after I met my husband, handsome, family oriented, rich, amazing dad!!
Imagine if I had decided to keep going with my ex!!!
I swear to you, don’t waste your precious time with some looser just for the sake of being with a man!
You got this! Good luck ✨✨✨✨

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Does he not make you feel special? Or sexy?
I know my husband does it, but for me, because he takes care of me, I don’t mind him looking.

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Maybe it's just me, but I look too 😂 No matter if that person is male or female. If they're pretty, have a well proportioned body or just dress good or look really ugly, I always tell my husband to look at her or him.
But I do that with everyone 🤷🏽‍♀️ My brothers, my friends, my dad, and yes, also with my husband. He's my best friend, so I want him to see what I see 😅
I don't know how else to explain it. But I don't have any insecurities about me, my husband or our marriage. And we've known each other for 26 years. Does he give you other reasons to feel insecure or jealous besides looking at other women?

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It doesn’t really bother me as we tend to look at people together tbf in the most random ways though. like we’d both be like woah her ass is big or her breast are massive to each other or I could see a muscular guy and be like see that guys to built for me I like you’re frame with a little added muscle but not too big to a point where he can’t scratch his own back
(he just started working out more)
Aslong as neither of you take it any further it’s okay because we all naturally glance at men and women when we’re out anyway.

Every couple’s different so it’s definitely whatever works for you’re relationship but I do believe to get to this stage where you’re comfortable with him glancing at women who look similar to each other you have to have two things,
1. Be emotionally confident in yourself and believe from you’re head to you’re toes that you’re the shit, love yourself in a way that mentally reminds him “with or without me I’ve got a woman who’s sexually and emotionally confident

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2. Both of you have to be secure in your relationship to a point where he knows “if I take this any further past looking she’s gone so I better not fck up because it’s not worth losing her” you have to find the balance in you’re mind to be a person who’s will also love him but isn’t afraid to leave if he did something to warrant you to end it.

Me and my kids dad have been together 10 years this year through trials and tribulations, he knows that thru all the forgiveness if he was to fck up I’d just pack a bag and never return because the ball is in his court to either do right or lose me because although I do love him I’ve grown to love myself more so in a bad situation il 100% choose me over forgiveness so now he just want to do everything right as he says.

It’s easier said than done but communication is key

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Also I’ve just seen that he gets mad when you bring it up and that is far from okay!!! For every relationship it’s your partners job to reassure the other not make those insecurities blossom! By showing anger and being defensive he’s making you’re suspicions seem more fact than observation and that’s heartbreaking

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I’m usually and very confident girl and I know I can have any pick of guys I want but I guess I feel low because I’m pregnant so I have gained weight I’m emotionally all over the place and I never really noticed him doing it until now.. I guess I feel like In a way it’s kicking me while I’m already down

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personally i dont care. I dont pay attention to what hes looking at. He will tell me what he thinks of someone and we will talk about
If we find whoever we were looking at (I look ay guys....) attractive or not. If you dont like it talk to him about it. You are valid for not liking it.

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If you’re genuinely asking how I feel, personally. I don’t care. Though I can only say I’ve “caught him” a few times. But, Just as he doesn’t get upset if someone oogles at me in public. Like I have some control of that. Now, If someone acts on said look, sure, ew, icky.
But, I think we’re all beautiful and should get attention when due. But RESPECTFULLY and appropriately. I’ve never thought my husband would leave me for a random beautiful girl, ya know?

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