My friend isn't poor but is really cheap and it's turning me off. Am i the AH?

I dunno personally I’d say she’s smart 😅 I wish I didn’t feel the need to spend money like I do.

Things like that bother me too, but I grew up in poverty so I have a pretty layered relationship with money. Ultimately I have to remind myself that money is nuanced and maybe I don’t know how they grew up or what their unseen expenses are.

I’m not really seeing the issue apart from borrowing clothes from you. They may be saving up for college or something big.

I really wouldn’t mind, until it’s that you need to borrow my things regularly because you won’t buy them for yourself. Eh on that part.

I get the bigger picture problem but i wouldn’t spend time thinking about it much because it’s not affecting our friendship.

I don't think second hand items should only be for people who can't afford brand new. If she were claiming things from organizations intended for low income people, that's different, but there's nothing wrong with this imo.

You're allowed to just not like it and not want to befriend her. I'd say this is why she has money though.

Why do you feel she isn't entitled to free things?

I didn't have a lot growing up and we struggled when it comes to money. So i understand the saving and getting the second hand things. But I always made sure my girl got what she needed. Am not saying is bad that she is asking to borrow,but I wouldn't ask. I prefer getting my girl something nice and new cause she deserves it

I don’t think ur an AH. You all probably just see things differently and that’s fine. If she wants to shop on marketplace for free things that’s on her. But I wouldn’t loan out my child’s good clothing, that’s doing to much to me.

That is literally how wealthy people stay wealthy. Maybe she prefers to put all their hard earned money in savings.

Literally why would that bother you. Fair enough if you don’t want to give her clothing to borrow but you sound like a pocket watcher 🤮 if I knew my friend was this judgemental and watching how I spend my money I would not be friends with them anymore

Just because you know what jobs they have doesn’t mean you have all the relevant info about their finances. Maybe they are saving every penny to pay off the degrees that got them good jobs, or their mortgage off early or any other debt. Maybe they just rather be sure they can pay for all their kids to go to Ivy League schools in the future rather than spend money on clothes.
I would just say “no” to her borrowing things from you if you don’t like it.

I think it’s time your “friend” found a real friend.

Ain’t NOTHING wrong with a good bargain , regardless of income 😂

I’ve just recently gone full time, so now we’re both full time I’ll have a little more money to spend. But even on our lower income I still could’ve bought stuff but why would I if I can find it free 😂 I even have family and friends come to me when they want something cheap or free , I’m the family bargain queen 👸🏼🤣

Maybe you just need to embrace it. It’s really a non issue, the only thing I can see you being annoyed at is the borrowing of clothes for photoshoots