In-law Drama…

Not at all. This is YOUR experience, where you will be the most vulnerable. You have the right to choose who’s there and who is not.

You are the one giving birth, it’s your choice! Have you emphasised about how this is your body, and you going through this so it’s up to you who gets to be there. I understand he wants his mum there, but this isn’t a common thing to happen and you will be going through the most vulnerable thing you’ll ever do it’s up to you who you have in the room with you. Stand your ground on what you want. Xx

No it's your choice of birthing partner it's your right to have your mam there and not his. This is what most women want. I had my mum plus my partner as birthing partner I wouldn't want his mum there watching me in that state. But my mum wouldn't judge choices of pain relief either x

Your body your choice, does he want to be in the room? Coz he sounds like he's talking you out of allowing him in.
If you want your mum there that's your choice!

My ex brought his whole family to watch me labor. It was really awkward. We didn’t like each other. I just ignored them, but I remembered thinking I did not want them there watching me when I’m exposed. Lucky my labor lasted so long they got bored of watching me squirm around and left. It was an argument with him, but I wish I had been more willful about it.

Absolutely not in the wrong!! Even without her saying that you have the full right and decision of who is allowed in that room, no one else gets a say, you’re the one going through it x

On this, he doesn't get a say on who is in the room to support YOU through birthing a child out of your body. Period.

Ask your husband if he’d want to be naked, doing one of the most difficult and vulnerable things he’ll ever do (although completely magical and beautiful!!) in front of your dad… see what he says😂

It’s your choice completely, I’m sorry he’s being like that! A girl needs her mama during labour, because she raised you, cared for you and birthed her yourself! Your mother in law didn’t.

I hope it all works out for you x

Ask him to lay on a bed and take a shit with your father watching. Is he okay with that?

Your body your choice, personally I wouldn’t want someone who’s not raised me there (like a mil) but rather someone who actually birthed me. It might be best to set some boundaries before hand. And when the time comes tell as many professionals as possible your rules on who you want in the room if they think they can break the boundaries when the time comes, I am so sorry you are going through this. You aren’t in the wrong for wanting your mum there and not his.

You’re not in the wrong. You can also have a quiet word with your midwife or OB and tell them who you want in the room and have them kick everyone else out for “medical reasons”