How do I get time to keep ontop of everything

I have two boys one who’s nearly 2 month and breast feeding and the other nearly 2 and my partner is disabled after loosing his leg about 7 years ago he has now also recently had his prosthetic leg taken away to be resized but I can never find the time I need to clean up properly to keep the house tidy the kitchen is always full of washing and the bedroom is always full of clothes that have not yet been put away I suffer with adhd and autism so this is very overwhelming that our schedule has been disrupted by my partners prosthetic being taken away as he would do the washing and cooking but it’s all changed since then as I now have to look after him and I have no time to properly do anything can any one help me please with a schedule or something I’m going crazy and feel like I’m failing in keeping up like everyone else

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I have nowhere near as many obstacles as you and my house is currently the same 😂 I don't have advice, but one day well into the future your littles won't be so little, and the house will be cleaner, try not to be so hard on yourself !

Your not alone I also struggle to keep on top of things and I too don't have as much on as you do. Give yourself some grace (something I need to do too). There is a saying I really like 'you can have everything but not all at once'. One day you will have a clean house but like was said before your children won't be as little. Xx

I would put everything you need to do in a week into AI and get them to break it down into daily tasks. Could you involve your 2yr old? Like colour sorting, pressing buttons on the washing machine etc so it’s part of your routine instead of trying to fit it in.

I hope things start to get easier

When I had my second the baby carrier was my best friend! If the baby was being fussy or just didn’t want to be left alone, I would just pop her in and put some music on or something for my son to dance and play to and I would try to get as much as I could done. I think most of us struggle to stay on top of things don’t beat yourself up!! I’ve been trying to clean my house for a week I’m just so damn tired lol

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What do you all make of this?

My husband made a really hurtful comment.

We argued this morning but more like he shouted at me because there was a stain on the sofa he thinks I spilled coffee I told him it’s not coffee.
We have 3 small children and I know it’s not great but mess and spillage will happen. He didn’t even ask me or have a conversation just kicked off like he always does without letting me get a word in. Basically talked at me not to me.

He said all I do is open my legs. Possibly referring to the sex we had last night.
He’s not spoken to me at all since this morning since he said that. I feel like that’s such a hurtful and nasty thing to say.

Not sure what to do I need advice

House hygiene, helppp!!!!

Hi guys, maybe abit of a shameful thing to post, hence the incognito, but I’d love some advise please.
Growing up both my parents worked 24/7 to be able to provide for us, meaning house work always fell by the way side, it’s not until I’m now a parent, and have limited time, that I realise I don’t think I’m keeping my house as clean as possible; and I really put it down to living in a pretty grubby house growing up, and never really being taught how to clean? It was fine pre baby as I had all the time in the world and was out the house 99% of the time so it was barely lived in.

We can’t afford a cleaner, but I always feel like my house could be cleaner, but I don’t really know where I’m going wrong…

Can people please drop their cleaning routines, advice, recommendations etc.

Thank you, a sincerely overwhelmed and slightly depressed first time mum xx

Neighbour

My neighbour came over and said my door was dirty and asked me to clean it, so I told him it’s just from the kids but no worries, I’ll get it done. He then said I’m responsible for keeping it clean, so I just replied “no worries” and turned to shut the door, but he carried on saying it doesn’t look good when people come around. That’s when I said, “I don’t need to be told, but thanks for the advice,” and closed the door. The second I pushed back, his face went completely confused and he just froze for a moment, like he never expected me to answer him that way.

Was how I reacted reasonable ?

As a SAHM going out (could be for drinks, club) anywhere in the evening with your girls/me time) if childcare is taken care of do you ask or just tell your partner that you’re going out?

Please only answer if you have somewhat of a “village”

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