Will it get easier?

My family lives 2000 miles away.
My husbands family lives 10 minutes away.
I know I chose to live so far away, but it's not the point.
They are not interested, no help, nothing from them.
Had my baby February 2026.
My family is dying to come and see my daughter, I know if we lived closer I'd have so much help. My mum came few days after I had her to help and it was the best. But she had to go back.
I'm struggling so bad. I'm so exhausted. Husband works 12h shifts, nights included. So I'm with baby all the time. No break, nothing.
His family never asked how I am during pregnancy ( almost lost the baby, had sepsis.. It was awful)
Had traumatic birth, ended with emergency c-section. Never asked how I am. Never even offered to walk our dog when I was in the hospital for 4 days and my husband was with me all the time. Had to ask our friend who lives an hour away!
But they came to see the baby the next day.
My baby had to be hospitalised at 5 weeks. I was freshly cut open and had to stay with her there. In pain, terrified that my baba is so poorly.
No help again, not even an offer to bring me water to the hospital when my husband was at work (they live 5 minutes from the hospital).
I'm just so lonely in this. I'm so tired. I know it was my choice to have a baby. It was my choice to live abroad. (We're different nationalities, our families speak different languages)
My husband is extremely supportive, can't fault him. He's saying to let it go, because he had to make peace with the fact they never cared about anything to do with him. But I'm from a loving, helping family. I don't get it.
It's just two of us doing everything. I'm sleep deprived. My husband works nights. I find it so hard to enjoy being a mum, because I'm so fucking tired!
Will it get easier?

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Do you leave your kids on the floor

This issue keeps coming up with my partner
I hoover my carpets 2-4 times a day i have 2 kids (9 month old is my partners) and the 4 year old loves abit of messy play, i clean up multiple tines a day too so its safe for my baby to crawl around, i put cushions over any hard edges so its pretty safe.
I have my baby alone for 10 hrs a day mon-thur hes so clingy even our families have said how its hard holding him because he is so fat and wiggly😂
Obviously i hold him during the day but when im cleaning i put him in his walker and when im doing other bits i put him on the floor, i dont leave him unattended for more then 2 mins (i live in a bungalow)
My partner has an issue with this, he moans if i use the walker too much (20 mins a few times a day) moans that i leave him on the floor but needed my help touching the car seat ( too see if it was hot) yesterday because he was holding the baby n couldn't but im supposed to do school runs, meals, cleaning and whatever else happens in a day all while holding the baby, its making me abit resentful as im trying my hardest in a situation i didnt want to be in (staying home) and instead of even offering alternatives like ive asked ged rather bitch at what im doing 'wrong'
So do you put your kids on the floor?
Obviously im inexperienced having 2 kids but i thought that was what helped them learn to roll, crawl, sit up etc

My friend isn't poor but is really cheap and it's turning me off. Am i the AH?

I have a friend who i really like and we get along well. But she is really cheap and it bugs me. Her and her partner both have very good jobs. They make more money than me and my partner.

Yet, she is always looking on marketplace for free things, when there are people who are actually in need that could benefit from these free things. Shes always picking up shit she doesnt even need just because its free. She raaaaarely buys clothes, shoes and toys for her kids. She is always scouting the internet for free stuff for them. Everytime she does a photoshoot or has an event, she asks me to borrow nice clothes for her kids because she doesnt wanna spend money and they dont own nice clothes since she only gets them second hand stuff.

I understand saving money and not spending recklessly, but i find she exaggerates.

Finding interests/hobbies

Ok, I've realised I'm boring AF. I have no hobbies or interests, what are we all doing to find a spark in life? My kids are beautiful but they can't be my only passion???

Nursery school - Help 🙏🏻

Hey mamas

My 16m old will be starting nursery school soon and I feel very much in the dark on what to expect/prep/think/feel etc

I would appreciate some top tips, advice, what I need to be aware/mindful/cautious of ? Anything really that will be helpful at first and in the long run.

Please leave your comments 😊

TIA ❤️

When your 3 year old has a sandwich, do you use/do they eat 2 slices of bread, or just 1 (folded over)?

This is random but my husband and I make my sons sandwiches differently and he says he doesn't need a second slice of bread and its not good for him, but he's just a kid and doesn't need to be on a diet in my opinion. But am I wrong, should we be careful? (He's not overweight)

Last nerve

I am literally on my last nerve girls!!

I do every night feed, change most nappies, put baby to sleep basically every single night, bath her, wash bottles, sterilise bottles, etc.
The odd time, yes my partner will feed her a bottle or put her to sleep (by this I mean putting her down and hoping for the best). But I do the brunt of everything.
Today my partner got up with LO at 8am (I got up with her at 3.30am) and I got up at 9am. He just made a comment to me saying “you feed her and actually have a turn.”

I am ABSOLUTELY LIVID. I am at the stage I feel like a single mother and I genuinely don’t know if I can be with this man anymore.

Yes, he works Monday-Friday but I will be going back to work in September and I don’t know how I will cope. Knowing when I come home I’ll most definitely need to tidy up, wash bottles and probably put her to bed. My work days are 14 hour shifts.

Does anyone have any advice before I lose my mind?