Porn addiction

Strap in ladies this is going to be a long one, my partner and I have been together almost 4 years when we first got together I asked if he watches porn his answer was no, I asked again about a year in has he ever watched it while being with me he again said no a few months after having this conversation it came up in a group conversation that he had been watching it so obviously I confronted him about lying about not watching it and told him how it made me feel he promised me he would never watch it again and I believed him the thing that hurt me the most is he has pictures of me on his phone he can use why would he want to look at someone else when he can look at me (why am I not good enough) i had a baby 4 months ago and still don’t like the way I look but we have been having regular sex since 6 weeks pp sometimes twice a day so it’s not like hes being deprived of it, he went to the shop and left his phone behind and I just had this little voice in my head telling me to check his phone so I did and I saw tab after tab of porn sites and chat rooms and I flipped my shit when he got home as he knows how I feel about it, he has promised me he won’t do it again and I have told him if it happens one more time me and his lb are going I cannot put myself through this anymore and he has agreed to me checking his phone etc but I can’t shake the feeling of being betrayed and hurt, I know a lot of you will just say leave him but I love this man with everything in me and I know he wants to change has anyone else been through anything similar who wouldn’t mind just messaging me and giving me some advice on how to help not only him but the way I’m feeling about it too, if you are still reading this thankyou for taking the time out of your day, pp is fucking hard man and each and everyone of you are fucking amazing and smashing it 💕

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