MIL and newborn

I came to see MIL cuddling and rocking to sleep my 5 week old son. I’ve been having a difficult time in my breastfeeding journey and trying to nurse him whenever possible as opposed to giving him bottles of formula. I feel my need for privacy and alone time with son is not being respected. She’s here to stay for an entire week under the guise of helping us while she secretly gets to hold my son and take over mommy duties and feed him formula. I’m low on sleep and really trying to tank it on my own with a half-present husband who did nothing but play video games after work and late into the night. He also doesn’t pick up after himself nor does he communicate boundaries properly with his mother. I told him clearly that I didn’t want people around at this time. He seems to not care and only wants to do what he wants to do. I’m considering ending breastfeeding and being a hands off parent. Like not caring about my son and walking out on them eventually. Thoughts? 💭

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Eating out

I have an 11 week old and I miss going out with my husband, even just for a coffee. My daughter is a very chill child but I still struggle to plan and make it work. When did you start going out with your children? Coffee/lunch? I can leave her with her grandma but would like to know when it will be possible to take her with us.

Upset

I’m really upset right now and I need someone to tell me if I’m overreacting. We have been spread so thin lately with money as my child’s father has been awaiting his new job to start. I work hard everyday, make sure bills are paid and make sure my son eats with hardly $1 left when it’s all said and done. My son wanted pizza today and although I made one I realize we had ran out of shredded mozzarella. As a quick fix I put a cheese slice on my homemade pizza to make it work. Next thing I know I’m being griped at and told I need to “think before I act” because sliced cheese looks disgusting. I honestly did what I could….. that hurt me so bad. It may not be that deep to some but what an asshole to come say that to me when you’ve been unable to contribute for months.

Absolutely miserable

Been with my husband for 12yrs
(married for 4yrs)

We have a 2yr old and a 9wk old, and im literally so fed up and tired waiting for thing to get better since having our 2nd baby.

He cries majority of the day and ive done all the nights on my own as ebf so have had broken sleep for over 2mnths as the week up to having baby I wasnt sleeping either, I get sleep deprivation magnifies everything

But I am so angry all the time mainly with my hubby, feel like I can't stand him atm

He works mon-fri 5am til 5:30pm. Ive been trying to explain how tired I am etc and he just throws back at me how hes tired too, I tried to explain again the above and he responded with if I did 5hrs driving a day and some days no breaks id be tired too hinting hes more tired or just as tired as I am... I said difference being I would get another job as hes right I wouldnt do it.

He just annoys me so much i said he doesn't get it and needs to learn to understand because all its doing is missing me off, he walked away from me into the garden.

I do all the nights alone whilst he sleeps through. I do 95% of newborns nappies i could count on 1 hand how many he has done.

Im wishing the time/weeks away in the hope that things get better as I get it will eventually but my gosh im so miserable right now its unreal.

We are not eating dinner separately as by time he cooks it its usually 8:30pm and I dint want to eat so late, he doesn't want me to cook, I said im gonna get ready meals as its easier for me to eat with our toddler at 5pm. He asked how long for etc and cooking for me is what he looks forward to, but I said it causes me too much stress in the eve. I just wana eat and feed baby then go to bed. We have no routine and until there is one thats the best thing for me to do, which he isnt happy about. I told him he could have ready meals too, or cook and I will have it the next day at a time I want it etc

Don't know what I want from this , I guess just somewhere to vent and be heard as clearly he isnt listening or getting it 🫩

Eating out

Does anyone find it a challenge eating out ? My little one is 15 months and we’ve always taken him out to dinner with us since he was able to sit in a high chair. Obviously now that is he is walking etc but will refuse to sit in a high chair when we are out. He just wants to run around. We don’t want to stop talking him out but we are at a loss of how can go out without him running around causing chaos in the restaurant. Should we just accept this is normal for this age range lol

Food ideas

I feel like my stuck making the same few things every week for my 1.5 year old. She eats chicken nuggets, fish sticks, pasta and pizza. I have run out of ideas on what to make. Any ideas of what else I can make for her.

Will it get easier?

My family lives 2000 miles away.
My husbands family lives 10 minutes away.
I know I chose to live so far away, but it's not the point.
They are not interested, no help, nothing from them.
Had my baby February 2026.
My family is dying to come and see my daughter, I know if we lived closer I'd have so much help. My mum came few days after I had her to help and it was the best. But she had to go back.
I'm struggling so bad. I'm so exhausted. Husband works 12h shifts, nights included. So I'm with baby all the time. No break, nothing.
His family never asked how I am during pregnancy ( almost lost the baby, had sepsis.. It was awful)
Had traumatic birth, ended with emergency c-section. Never asked how I am. Never even offered to walk our dog when I was in the hospital for 4 days and my husband was with me all the time. Had to ask our friend who lives an hour away!
But they came to see the baby the next day.
My baby had to be hospitalised at 5 weeks. I was freshly cut open and had to stay with her there. In pain, terrified that my baba is so poorly.
No help again, not even an offer to bring me water to the hospital when my husband was at work (they live 5 minutes from the hospital).
I'm just so lonely in this. I'm so tired. I know it was my choice to have a baby. It was my choice to live abroad. (We're different nationalities, our families speak different languages)
My husband is extremely supportive, can't fault him. He's saying to let it go, because he had to make peace with the fact they never cared about anything to do with him. But I'm from a loving, helping family. I don't get it.
It's just two of us doing everything. I'm sleep deprived. My husband works nights. I find it so hard to enjoy being a mum, because I'm so fucking tired!
Will it get easier?

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