Controversial maybe but a 2.5/3 year old should NOT have a dummy (pacifier) in public.

Whilst I agree with you, I’d rather focus on how I parent rather than worry about others. Maybe something to think about.

Yawn!

I’ll be the one who dares to stick their neck out and agree in the comments. Using them in the daytime at that age effects their teeth alignment, their jaw , their oral health and most importantly their speech, and none of that is an opinion it’s fact.

Being honest you don't know if there are underlying issues. Not all disabilities are visible, something to keep into perspective

My son had his until 3yo. It was hard to remove it as he has always been a high needs boy with big emotions. At 3yo he got to an age of understanding.
all the things you listed all self corrects. The HV told us that too before we got him to give it up and she was right. Soon as he gave it up his teeth got back to normal, speech improved and able to self soothe to sleep.

My son never took a pacifier so it’s not ever been something I think about much, because I’ve never had to experience the whole getting rid of it aspect 🤷‍♀️

Now that im a mom…. I just give other parents grace. You never know what a parent may be going through and why they do the things they do. Unless they are just flat out negligent… i mind my business.

My daughter had hers until she was 2 1/2. The situation we lived in wasn't what I wanted for her but I didn't have an option at the time and she used it as a comfort item. She spoke just fine and her teeth are just fine. About a month after we moved she bit the top off and threw the whole thing in the trash and said mommy no more. Yes she may have been old enough to not have one but she felt safer with it. Now I have my son, the hospital gave him one before we left and as soon we got home my daughter bit the top off and said mommy he don't need it, hes safe here. She had just turned 3. My point is yes they may be older but there is a reason they haven't let it go. How about we just let kids be kids and not judge them.

I just assume they probably have a disability.

I dont tend to give my 2 year old a dummy in the day time. Its for naps, very long car journies and bed time now. But we have been teething two molars at the same time so she has had it. Because its that or I carry her. In 36c heat, a bad back, bad knees and my heart doing some weird things because its so hot. I chose dummy. Sometimes its not simple why someone chooses a dummy over no dummy. I went the dummy gone by the time she is 2 and a half. But if shes like me change wont be fun. I dont cope with change at all (not diagnosed with anything by dyslexia). So i always work on the premises I do so we have been talking about the dummy fairy for months. With the hope when it happens she accepts that story that the dummy fairy takes the dummy to give to new babies

Im on the fence, i do sorta agree. My almost two year is super attached to her dummy and I really don’t want her to be and we don’t want her having her dummy for too much longer. We’re trying to encourage teddy cuddling and things like that. Purely because I do have the opinion that they are for the younger babies. However when it comes to a child feeling safe and comforted then who the hell cares what that item is. It wouldn’t cross my mind to even think about it and I doubt I’d notice another child who had one in their mouth. So I guess I don’t agree. But interesting debate.

My older son was the bad sleeper, high needs, intense, exhausting, restless, binky attached baby. And ya know what.....I still took it away at 1. Because I'm the parent and it's my job. We lost sleep and there were tears, but we got it done.

Disabilities aside, a lot of parents just don't want to because it's not easy. While I get that as a reason, it's not an excuse

My daughter gave it up after a few weeks of fighting at 3.5. Gave them to Father Christmas to give to needy babies.

Let me tell you the REGRESSION we’ve had after a trip to Disney last month. There were lots of older children around with dummies in and she was very confused as to why “big kids” had dummies when she doesn’t anymore. I’m talking 7 hours of tears in the car on the way home trying to wear me down for one then stealing her little brother’s every day now and being sneaky.

I get that there’s high needs kids but my god, every other kid in Disneyland had one and it was hard.