Husband keeps pressuring daughter to be a “good girl”, how can I tell him to stop?

Husband has been really trying to use the “good girl” pressure to make our 3 year old behave, she is a very stubborn little girl and has massive outbursts, but I believe we can manage it without using this pressure.

He’s started getting her to repeat “nice girls get nice things and bad girls get nothing” and it’s starting to make me feel uncomfortable, but I can’t quite put my finger on why.

Anyone have any tips on how to navigate this?

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5 month old not sleeping with Daddy

My partner use to work evenings until our LB was 2 months. Their relationship wasnt very strong and baby would always cry with him. Baby is now 5 months in a few days and for about a month now he will not fall asleep with Dad.

We take turns every night and we have had a very strict routine which we have stuck by since he was a month old. One will bath and dress him and the other will feed him a bottle and rock him to sleep.

He goes down perfectly fine with me (mum) and I dont even have to pay attention to him, I just give him a bottle and 9/10 he will fall asleep with the bottle or once finished will fall asleep within 10 minutes. All I have to do is hold him.

Dad does the same thing and even uses a dummy and sometimes we find it use to help. Baby is fine but once bottle in finished he doesnt go to sleep and when hes being fed his eyes are wide open. My partner says he usually looks at the door whilst he's crying. He rocks him, tries to soothe him and does more than what I do. It would take him well over an hour to put baby to sleep.

Now baby will not fall asleep with him and I have to put him to sleep every night.

Has anyone else experienced this? Thanks x

You are NOT the father!

When I found out I was pregnant, I told the person I was certain about him being the father; he was not going to be involved he said, and went ghost. Blocked me and all. I filed CP.

DNA test came back , not the father. Omg. I’m so embarrassed. HONESTLY SHOCKED.

So now… I know who my child’s bio father is. There was one other person I was with during the window. I told him. He took it well.

I spent months holding on to pain bitterness and anxiety about that person I thought was my baby’s dad.
Has anyone else experienced anything dramatic like this?

Even though it feels like a weight is lifted, I feel ashamed and embarrassed at the same time. I’ve never gotten around , and this feels like a suburban Maury Povich episode.

Upset

Am so upset some girl call me a lier I had a baby just born and it was my depression group and why people has to be mean

Controversial buttttt…here we gooooo

Parents who give big speeches about how awful formula is and breastmilk is the only good option and then feed their 7m olds jars or pouches are contradicting themselves. Processed shit just full of apple at this point.

Weaning is introducing solids, teaching your baby how to eat not just feeding them something other than milk. The majority of babies nutrition is coming from milk at this age.

Listen, I’m all for an easy option from time to time and I know full BLW is scary. But I promise steaming some plain veggies and mashing it up is easy and if you can pre make whatever you want to feed them it’s cheaper and does not take long.

I think the fact the NHS have now changed from the term weaning to saying introduce solids emphasis my point they the aim isn’t to get them off milk and onto jars or pouches of food at the age. It’s to teach them HOW to eat.

Breastfeeding

Hi ladies

I’ve been breastfeeding for 7 weeks, can I ask is anyone else feeling as though breastfeeding is totally consuming their life? Is that normal? I feel like feeding is literally all I do and sometimes I go through whole day and think I’ve not stopped feeding 🙈 I am becoming envious of my friends who bottle feed their babies which seems to give them good 3-4 hour stints between feeds.

Don’t get me wrong I’m so grateful to do it, and part of me loves it, but I have those days were I think omg is this normal ??

Any advice / tips or other experiences so welcome x x

Nighttime anxiety and sleeping

Is anyone else absolutely petrified to actually get in bed close your eyes and allow yourself to fall asleep even though you know deep down your baby is safe sleeping in their crib next to you and their cry would wake you up. My baby is 5 days old tomorrow and she is a very peaceful baby which I am so lucky to be able to say (obviously I’m aware this could change) but I’m scared she won’t cry enough to wake me up when she needs me or she’ll spit up in her sleep and I’m not awake to make sure she’s okay. Even the thought of her lying in a crib alone makes me a little bit sad for some reason but I would never cosleep as that terrifies me more than anything. I just get scared by the time 8 o’clock rolls around as I know another night is ahead of me. She seems to be so sleepy all the time and she’s very quiet which makes me anxious as to if she is 100% okay once I close my eyes and fall asleep. Any advice or anyone just feeling the same way? I also am feeling so anxious about what to dress her in to sleep as I don’t want her getting too hot while I’m asleep and not fully watching her like I am in the day.