5 month old not sleeping with Daddy
My partner use to work evenings until our LB was 2 months. Their relationship wasnt very strong and baby would always cry with him. Baby is now 5 months in a few days and for about a month now he will not fall asleep with Dad.
We take turns every night and we have had a very strict routine which we have stuck by since he was a month old. One will bath and dress him and the other will feed him a bottle and rock him to sleep.
He goes down perfectly fine with me (mum) and I dont even have to pay attention to him, I just give him a bottle and 9/10 he will fall asleep with the bottle or once finished will fall asleep within 10 minutes. All I have to do is hold him.
Dad does the same thing and even uses a dummy and sometimes we find it use to help. Baby is fine but once bottle in finished he doesnt go to sleep and when hes being fed his eyes are wide open. My partner says he usually looks at the door whilst he's crying. He rocks him, tries to soothe him and does more than what I do. It would take him well over an hour to put baby to sleep.
Now baby will not fall asleep with him and I have to put him to sleep every night.
Has anyone else experienced this? Thanks x
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I did with my first boy, he's 3 now and will always ask for me to put him to bed, but we stuck to taking turns and now he nods off faster with his dad (we sit with him till he's asleep) we stuck through it, my husband would just pop in headphones to listen to an audiobook/podcast and endure the hour. If he got really upset I'd sit in the room with them when he was a baby. It's normal for a stronger bond to form with the main care giver
Not like this, we were able to start out letting our baby choose, naturally taking turns with those overnights in the beginning, but as our baby realized it was his choice he’d choose dad multiple nights, mom multiple nights & mix it up & somehow we ended up w/dad doing bath, me brushing teeth, dad putting him to bed, but the one time hubs had to work late I didn’t have much problem getting him to sleep, he was a toddler at that point & just sad that his dad had to work from 5am-midnight, but it was Saturday the next day & he got his dad at bedtime again. Dad has been doing bed for about 2.5yrs now, ours turns 5 in September. Maybe dad needs to be holding/playing more leading up to bed, the more comforting the better, then both do bed together a few nights & see if your LO will start choosing dad alone too.
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