Bout to lose it so going to vent here.

I have been working full time while my husband was unemployed and supposed to be the stay at home parent. I work remote. Tell me why now that this man has a job, also remote and we split childcare between eachother, the amount I work/childcare hasn't changed for me? I have had no free time to even read a book or watch a show. Im literally only watching toddler, working, or cleaning. My husband started work this week and has had time to play video games every night, had an hour to himself this morning, and has had time to work out. And has the audacity to complain this morning about not having enough time to get things done, like baby proofing, or organizing, cleaning better. After almost 9 months of stay at home life he never learned how to get other things done with kiddo so only ever played with him and that was it. Just incapable of getting kiddo to solo play or multitask 🙃
I don't realy have a point to all this other then Im burnt out 🫠

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Baby dads

Am I in the wrong my son was meant to be going supervised contact today with his dad and because my little one tried to bite me and also slap me I told him no that he’s not going then he was like what he’s done I told him that I’ve told him off and doesn’t need his dad too as I’m primary carer but he’s adamant that he should be able to go I made it clear when he does things like that he doesn’t get reward like soft play or park my child is very hyperactive I tried to tell him that boundaries need to be a thing and he doesn’t understand that. I’m not going to reward my son now if he thinks it’s okay to hit me then go places like soft play because he will continue to think he can get away with it then get a reward am I in the wrong or what my lo is 2

Just needed to write this out…

I don’t think my husband quite understands how I’m feeling.
I am four months postpartum with our second (our eldest is 3.5) and we’ve just not had a great day week of sleep for anyone…

There’s been alot happening with wakes up with both kids, sickness, clingyness and parental preference (swapping constantly) as well as hospital visits with our youngest due to UTI and kidney reflux which we are managing with the hospital.

Last night broke me…I think i got a total of 2 hours sleep across the whole night, my husband took both girls to his parents for the day so I could rest which I did…but I’ve woken up from a nap just still feeling drained…I can’t explain it, it’s just like no amount of sleep will fix how depleted I feel…

I’m so tired…

Husband going back to work

My husband goes back to work on Wednesday and I'm panicking. We have a four week old and when my husband has had to leave us for a few hours here and there it's like baby knows I'm scared and he ends up having a really bad time, screaming and crying, won't settle. I've lost all my confidence on being able to be his mum and make him feel safe and calm when I'm alone.

My husband has been our rock while home, he does all the cooking and cleaning, he reminds me to stay hydrated and brings me water and anything else I need when nap trapped. He's been incredible so I'm terrified of him not being here for 10 hours a day Monday to Friday. We have no family and our friends all work full time Monday to Friday too so there's no one that can come over to help me. When he's not here I feel so useless and helpless, how do you all cope?

Porn addiction

Strap in ladies this is going to be a long one, my partner and I have been together almost 4 years when we first got together I asked if he watches porn his answer was no, I asked again about a year in has he ever watched it while being with me he again said no a few months after having this conversation it came up in a group conversation that he had been watching it so obviously I confronted him about lying about not watching it and told him how it made me feel he promised me he would never watch it again and I believed him the thing that hurt me the most is he has pictures of me on his phone he can use why would he want to look at someone else when he can look at me (why am I not good enough) i had a baby 4 months ago and still don’t like the way I look but we have been having regular sex since 6 weeks pp sometimes twice a day so it’s not like hes being deprived of it, he went to the shop and left his phone behind and I just had this little voice in my head telling me to check his phone so I did and I saw tab after tab of porn sites and chat rooms and I flipped my shit when he got home as he knows how I feel about it, he has promised me he won’t do it again and I have told him if it happens one more time me and his lb are going I cannot put myself through this anymore and he has agreed to me checking his phone etc but I can’t shake the feeling of being betrayed and hurt, I know a lot of you will just say leave him but I love this man with everything in me and I know he wants to change has anyone else been through anything similar who wouldn’t mind just messaging me and giving me some advice on how to help not only him but the way I’m feeling about it too, if you are still reading this thankyou for taking the time out of your day, pp is fucking hard man and each and everyone of you are fucking amazing and smashing it 💕

How are people affording multiple babies in this economy?! 👀

I’m seriously struggling and I only have the one… still on mat pay but when I go back to work will be paying for nursery, and both me and my partner have fairly good incomes. We are expecting to just about make ends meet. I just don’t know how anyone can even consider having more than one in this economy?! What am I missing?!

Potty training (upairy?)

Starting to potty train my son, he’s always used pampers nappies and for potty training we’ve used Huggies potty training nappies so far he’s not understanding the fact that he’s wet. We’ve tried to be naked and outside and just wees on the floor doesn’t take any notice. Has anyone used upAiry? Are they good? Only just at the start of this whole journey, any tips would be highly appreciated thanks!