Does your partner actually enjoying being a parent?

Honestly wouldnt call him deadbeat, he loves her very much BUT I have quickly realised he just cant do parenting. I dont know if its because of the way he was brought up, his mental health, laziness or a combination but he just cant do it 🤷

The issue is he hates doing bedtime and through the night settles because she is a pain with him. Gets herself more worked up and screams at him for ages x

Its so frustrating and tbh im exhausted, not necessarily from doing everything but from trying to keep our relationship going, I feel like I have to parent him as well - he doesnt even tidy up after himself without nagging 🤦‍♀️😂 i genuinely do wonder if we'd be better on our own. Here if you ever wanna moan x

He doesn't particularly enjoy some aspects of it. He says it doesn't come naturally to him, he often finds it a bit boring. BUT he puts in 10000% effort, our daughter would never know if he wasn't enjoying something, he loves her unconditionally and loves being her daddy just struggles sometimes. He's allowed to find it hard. He's not allowed to pick and choose which aspects of parenting he wants to be involved with 🤷🏼‍♀️ he committed to being a dad and he's delivering on that commitment and more. He would never leave some aspects to me because that would be unfair on me and setting a bad example for our daughter. So if I were you I would be asking myself why he can't make the effort for you as well as for the kids. Not everyone loves every stage, I feel like it is common for men to struggle more at the younger ages when you get less out of it. But you reap what you sow- you have to try and work on that bond and make the effort even when it's not fun and games. Especially when it's not fun and games!