Second baby-baby blues

When does it get better??😭 I’m not even two days pp yet my heart hurts sooooo bad and I just keep crying. I wish I could turn back time and it just be my first baby and I again atleast for just one more second to soak it in. She looks so big now… my heart wasn’t ready. I feel like no one around me understands how heart broken I am. Please tell me this goes away because It hurts sooooo bad 😭

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Can’t cope with this

My baby is 5 weeks old. She has been crying for days.

I can’t do this anymore. I have a toddler and she’s waking him multiple times a night and then his behaviour is dreadful all day..

She takes a feed and then screams inconsolably for up to 2 hours after a feed. She then settles and is due another feed again.

I am so unbelievably depressed. I’m not sleeping and I’m not coping and I do not know what to do.

Reassurance

My 5mo rolled out of bed and fell onto the floor. I rang 111 immediately and they didn’t seem too concerned- they requested the out of hours go to ring back within 2 hours. We fell asleep so I missed the phone calls (2am). But the 111 speaker said it has been raised as a safeguarding issue and someone will be out to see me. So I’m a little nervous. Can anyone offer any experience or reassurance of this?
My baby was asleep when she fell and didn’t cry when she landed on the floor. She didn’t seem to have much change, a few red marks on her head that have since faded.
Should I take her to the GP in the morning just to be safe? I’m prob going to anyway. I just feeel like such a rubbish mum.

Allergy or normal?

My 8 week old baby has been pulling her legs up, grunting through the night and sometimes arches her back when feeding (and then we burp her and shes ok). The health visitor watched me feed her on Wed & said she was bloated after 2 oz which wasn't normal. She suggested she may have an allergy to the milk (we were using kendamil), her trumps were smelly and we were having to do bicycle legs often and help her to go for a 💩. Her 💩 started off as a paste like consistency and then was runny.

We changed to aptimel pep 1 on Wed and she's even worse, she's refusing the bottle, is crying out in pain and isn't trumping on her own at all and is even worse going for a 💩.

My question is... has anyone had similar experiences to what my baby was like on Kendamil, like was it normal baby behaviour or does she have an allergy to the cows milk?

Any help would be greatly appreciated! Me and my partner are going out of our minds 🙏 x

Did you feel relief at child birth?

I'm talking when baby starts physically exiting lol, did you get a sensation of relief, like pressure leaving your body? Or even when your water broke?
My water didn't break until I was pushing and honestly the relief was crazy, like I had been holding my breath for 9 months and finally I could breathe. When I pushed her out I felt like I had been constipated for 9 months and finally pooped, except it was my baby (and probably also a little bit of poop 😂)

Does / Did your partner do night feeds so you could sleep?

Comment how many / for how long and did he have to go to work early the next morning?

Help!

Guys I’m 6 months pregnant and my son literally just turned two and has decided he’s done with naps. We went from waking up around 8am and having maybe 40 minutes after lunch to now waking up at 6:30am and ZERO napping during the day and he still is hard to put down at 8:30pm and is up running around the house. How the hell am I going to manage if I can’t even get those 40 minutes to myself 😭