Would you leave, or am I giving up too easily?

Need some honest advice from other mums because I genuinely feel broken.

I’ve been with my partner for 4 years and we have a 3-month-old baby together. I don’t feel like his girlfriend anymore, I just feel like someone he lives with.

I’ve barely been anywhere since having the baby, yet he’s been out for the football, the pub, getting his haircut, went out all day yesterday after work until late saying it was “one drink”, is out again Wednesday , and already has more plans this week. I feel like I’m always at home with the kids while he carries on as normal.

We recently had a huge argument after I found links to OnlyFans creators in his browser history. Whether people agree or not, I see that as cheating because he’s lusting after other women, and his explanations have kept changing, so I’ve completely lost trust.

The biggest thing is how he treats me. If I cry, he ignores me, walks past me, tells me I’m crying “crocodile tears” or shuts the door in my face. I don’t feel loved, wanted or cared about at all. I’ll be talking to him and he’ll just be on his phone, it’s like talking to a brick will.

Yesterday I told him I wanted to end the relationship because I’m so unhappy. His response was that he’d rather keep doing this because he doesn’t want to only see the kids every other day. It felt like he wanted to keep the relationship for the children, not because he wanted me, he will refuse to let me end it as In because of the kids so I’m in this and miserable, every time I explain what’s wrong or try have a convo he goes “oh I’m ignoring u till you’ve had ur episode and calmed down “ imagine trying to break up with someone and everytime it’s like they refuse 😂??

Need advice pleaseee

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He can’t refuse to break up with you!? If you make that decision that is what it is whether he likes it or not and I 100% think that’s a decision you should make 🥹
He’s with you for the kids and if you accept that relationship and this man’s behaviour then you’re accepting scraps, you’re not even getting the bare minimum in that relationship your being neglected and honestly emotionally abused it it sounds like 😭
Run for the hills girl, it’ll ultimately be best for you and your kids will get to see you happier 💖

Sounds like he is also a child you are looking after. Honestly just go out on your own don’t tell him do things for you even with the baby at that age they are easy enough and sleep a lot so going to the pub yourself with your friends or even on your own isn’t too hard. It does sound like a one sided relationship and he only wants the convenience of being with you so that he doesn’t have to have “shared custody” type of arrangement but you can end the relationship it doesn’t need to be a mutual agreement put yourself first he’s just very comfortable and probably forgotten what he actually has

Just leave. Don’t ask. He doesn’t like you. He doesn’t want to look bad in front of others either and it’s convenient for him if you stay since you take care of your child for him. He may think you leaving and having shared custody will force him to actually have days he takes care of the little one. You deserve better boo 🫶🏽 find someone who likes and loves you. He’s an asshole

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