10 month health visitor review

Anyone else feel deflated after their 10 month review? I came out my appointment sobbing, they make you feel like you’re a terrible mum.
My little boy is measuring overweight for his age he is a big boy I knew that was going to be mentioned, however she then proceeds to tell me to water his formula down so he doesn’t like it so we can cut down how much he is having 😳 he does have meals and snacks throughout the day but loves his milk! Also he wasn’t babbling as much in the appointment and she mentioned he has a speech and language delay and could be autistic 🙄 by the end of the appointment she retracted what she said as he started shouting “dadadada”. She also told me to take his dummy away from him at night time as this will be affect his speech but this is the only time he has it and he doesn’t speak when he’s asleep 🙄😂 how can they “know” all this at 10.5 months old. All babies develop in their own time. I’m now worried. Has anyone else had a similar experience? ☹️

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The part about his milk and weight etc is awful I don’t think that’s something they should be saying. Babbling wise, the review is actually the 1 year review, they need to have had it before they’re 1 so some areas are booking them earlier. When I took my baby to get weighed before I went back to work he was about 9.5 months and she wanted to do it then but I refused because he wasn’t doing most of the check list so I’ve booked it for when he’s 11.5 months. You can’t expect a 10 month old to be doing everything a 1 year old is (even if it is just two months off) then claim he must be autistic. Surely the next step would be to book him in again closer to one and monitor if there is a genuine worry. My baby is hardly doing anything so they’ll have a field day with us, typical lazy second 😂

Also, my first still has a dummy to sleep and he’s 3. It’s a nightmare to get rid of but he was speaking in full sentences by 18 months/2ish

Nooooo you should put in a complaint about this person. This is completely messed up. Sorry you went through that. Advice seems outdated and frankly weird, mine didnt even mention the dummy, plus some babies are just bigger and it usually doesnt mean anything. Also babbling dadadada is normal, good development.

Mine did say reduce bottles to 3 a day, but watering it down so he doesnt like it?? Thats so odd

I would report this HV to be honest, pretty much everything she said is either unsafe or outdated and incorrect.
Weight- nothing wrong with babies being a higher weight centile, usually it’s in proportion with their height, I’d be much more worried if baby was very low weight centiles. My 9 month old is also over 10kg, he’s happy, healthy and very mobile.
Watering down formula- this is unsafe and incorrect, should never be done, it can lead to malnutrition.
Babbling- mentioning autism because of not babbling during a 10 min appointment is ridiculous
Dummy- HV should never tell anyone to do anything, they can recommend based on research and health advice, it’s still fairly early to take the dummy away so wouldn’t be too bothered about that unless you think it’s time.
I’d report her and ask for a new appointment with someone else so you actually get a benefit out of the appointment. Sorry to say this HV is an arse xx

After I saw the health visitor she told me that I can start my baby on cow milk even tho she was just ten months and to stop using Johnson as it dries out her body (which it doesnt) she cant use child farm or avenno as she comes out in a rash, they think all babies are the same but they aren't my little girl is on the smaller size but still doing everything she needs to do she a smart crazy 10 and half month old in 3-6 clothing xx

Omg who is this woman?!?!?!?!?!? Ignore everything she said ! Honestly don't worry about it !

I think to even mention autism at 10 months after one observation is crazy. Ours made me feel a little shit about feeding but nothing like that. We’re 98th weight percentile and she told us to reduce milk but not watering in down - I’m sure that can make your baby sick? You know your baby best, you’re doing a great job by even attending the appointment and being concerned enough to post here for advice xxx

I was also told to cut down my baby’s formula at night time but she often wakes up at night hungry 😢

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Doctors receptionist and a small rant

Has anyone else’s GP surgery started asking if this is an “urgent medical request”?
For reference I’ve got a young toddler with green gunky eyes she’s had for over a week I’ve done my best to keep away from the doctors and treated with breastmilk and cooled boiled water and I’ve taken her to the pharmacy to see if they could treat it. But they said because of her age she was too young to be using anything over the counter. Plus she’s woken up rubbing her ears and are full of wax so is suspect an ear infection ontop of things. So basically it’s time to get her checked by a Gp.

I said all of the above and the lady on reception still asked if I felt she was needing to be seen my a doctor and I said well yeah I guess so hence why I’m calling 🤷🏼‍♀️😐

Honestly genuine question, why do they make you feel like you’ve either got to be having a heart attack to warrant an appointment? I do feel for them as I’m sure they get so many time wasters and I know appointment are few and far between but truly i just don’t feel like it warrants being made to feel like your asking for the world when you call with a genuine medical issue.

I’m really struggling with this attitude you are met with. I’m self employed pay my taxes and if I spoke to any of my customers in that fashion I would t have a business. So why do they get away with it?

Sorry rant over

Fully formula fed babies - how often are they waking at night?

My girl is 6 weeks and last two nights she’s woken at 4am and then 6.30am after last feed at 10.30pm and I’m hoping it continues. Just wondered if that’s ok, my little boy woke at 2 & 5 for what felt like forever for a feed.

Rubbing eyes keeping self awake and holding hands down gently

Hello,
My little girl is 6 months old. Her sleep has always been mostly ok. I feed her to sleep, hold her for 20 minutes and then transfer her to her next to me. I keep my hand on her chest for a minute and take it away slowly.
Since the weather has been warmer she has struggled with sleep. I do my same routine but as soon as I put her down, she’s awake and begins furiously rubbing her eyes and gets sad. Last night I took her downstairs and lay next to her next to me, and held her hands down gently, she slept if I kept them there. Which is fine in the short term, but not a great long term solution. Has anybody else had this? She’s rolling when playing on the floor, do you think it’s time to move to the cot where she could get herself to sleep on her front?

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