Maternity

How is maternity money survivable im literally left with £42 after my share of the house bills and my car insurance thats with me being a supervisor and the place I work paying above minimum wage that is absolutely ridiculous 😱

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9 months and alone need advice

I have been with this older man for about 11 months when i got pregnant basically he couldn’t get a job the whole time. Now a year since his last full time job, he was got offered a job that’s 30 days + contract around US and 30 days off.

He left at 6 months and at 8-9 months. He knows i have no family around and now is threatening to send our text to his other 2 bms. Texts where i am saying for his lack of care for updates on how we’ve been the last few week i wondered how those other 2 women went through it. These women for context have fought each other and treat the children of the other terribly so he’s told me.

He’s accused me of sleeping with my adoptive dad and will not stop. The only boyfriend my dad has ever allowed himself to meet btw. Again 9 months with no support and a man willing to stay away and threaten me with his family. What should I do!???!

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Looking for a village. Im 29 with 2 kids under 3. Hubs is a blue collar and im a sahm. Let's chat!

Am I overreacting???

So I've just had another argument with my partner. We've been together for 7 years and have a 5 year old son and I'm due in 4 weeks. I've just found out he's been slagging me off to his work mates and saying I won't let him go out with them. For context I found out he was cheating on me 2 weeks before I knew I was pregnant. I suffer with depression and anxiety anyway and have been having counselling for it, this tipped me. We agreed to try again but there have been times when he's said he wished he was still cheating on me so he'd have a reason to deal with my attitude to now. I've not said no he can't go out but have asked if he could give me some notice and where he'll be as I'm high risk pregnancy and had a haematoma burst at 7 weeks, which we didn't know what it was at the time and even the nurse at work thought I was miscarrying. I am clingy and need reassurance at the moment and I thought he understood. The fact that he's been bad mouthing me with no context or admission as to why I'm like this makes me feel he blames me and doesn't understand at all. Sorry for the long post. Just very confused and need some advice. Thanks.

What do you do when someone trauma dumps?

I’m specifically talking about people you haven’t met yet online or people who you’ve just met.

I’ve had people dump baby daddy drama, childhood abuse, domestic violence issues etc.

I’m very lucky to have never experienced this level of abuse or trauma but I find it very off putting when people I barely know dump this on me. can we at least get coffee and small talk for a bit first ? 😬

Want more close friends

I have a very few friends i feel I can trust but want to spend time with more people who I can develop a great friendship with and have more close friends... honest, trustworthy friends..

what do u think?

if your partner hasn’t been wanting sex as much since baby was born, and the first months were very rocky with arguing, but now even as things get better, their sex drive is still low when it used to be higher than yours….

For example, I’ve been initiating and I tried to earlier. We were cuddling and my partner said jokingly that I started to make him hard but I know he meant it. And then I hinted at him and then he said he had to get ready for golf. He definitely could’ve squeezed one but didn’t. And said later, which later might not even even happen. I just don’t get it.

I had a conversation with him about it and he said he still finds me attractive. that the arguing also got to him, he literally said “see im seeing next to you on the couch for once i never do that.” like???? that should be done it takes zero effort?? he maybe it has something to do with how he’s gained weight. And his sex drive is just lower lately. am i overthinking?