9 months and alone need advice

I have been with this older man for about 11 months when i got pregnant basically he couldn’t get a job the whole time. Now a year since his last full time job, he was got offered a job that’s 30 days + contract around US and 30 days off.

He left at 6 months and at 8-9 months. He knows i have no family around and now is threatening to send our text to his other 2 bms. Texts where i am saying for his lack of care for updates on how we’ve been the last few week i wondered how those other 2 women went through it. These women for context have fought each other and treat the children of the other terribly so he’s told me.

He’s accused me of sleeping with my adoptive dad and will not stop. The only boyfriend my dad has ever allowed himself to meet btw. Again 9 months with no support and a man willing to stay away and threaten me with his family. What should I do!???!

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bestie where are you!!

looking for some new friends to chit chat with ! im from colorado but doesnt matter your location 🤭💕

How do we afford to live?

The ones with a mortgage and not struggling..how do we do this?
I am working full time from home, take care of my son at the same time so we have no nursery costs. My husband works full time with a decent wage.. but we still exist and don’t live. So hard to save up. All the wages goes to bills. Honestly don’t remember the last time I went to do my nails for example. Our mortgage payments are absolutely ridiculous because we had a remortgage when interest rates were so high. And then i look at some people having holidays left right and centre😂 am I missing something in life? Are we doing some side quests? Please share because if I can’t even save a 100 quid what’s the actual point 😂

Would you stay with someone like this?

*long post* if you stay til the end/share input thank you

I am considering leaving my fiancé.. We have been on and off for about 6 years. I forgave him for infidelity, emotional & verbal abuse.

When I was completely done with him, I found out I was 2 months pregnant. That’s how we got back together and stayed together without breaks for about 2 years.

It took ALOT for me to trust him after the countless times he had cheated on me. He was truly treating me right since the moment I found out I was pregnant but at 3 months pp ( I am now 13 months pp ) I saw his TikTok and he was lusting over women. I even had a girl reach out to me a week later because he liked her TikTok story which was a booty pic. That situation created alot of problems & a lot of previous issues resurfaced.

Anyway, I forgave him and yet again kept finding the same stuff all over again.. . Yes I was dumb but I was postpartum and very vulnerable. I blame myself a lot. I even said yes to his proposal 6 months after that ( VERY stupid ).

So fast forward, we have been arguing over everything!!! But these last 4 times have been TERRIBLE. The emotional and verbal abuse has begun again. He will get mad and start calling me dumb, an idiot, start yelling and screaming. Pushes me to my limits then records me when I cry/retaliate to make me seem like the bad one. Every single one of those times he has taken EVERYTHING BACK. I’m talking, engagement ring, gifts, clothes. Literally everything he has “ given “ me. After packing his stuff he will drive off to his dad’s house and stay there for days on end.

We had such a BIG fight this last time that my parents stepped in and told him none of that was ok & he had to respect me. He said yes and was very embarrassed.

Well we just argued right now and I wasn’t feeling like sleeping in bed with him so I set my sleeping place on the floor.

He got so mad at me for doing that so yup he packed up everything again & left. I’m so sick and tired of this. I don’t feel like I’m overreacting but at the same time I’m confused because for years nobody has stepped in to defend me so I’m just unsure.

Any mummies looking for mummy friend?

God I sound like a loosing putting this but honestly been living in Ascot Sunninghill for a year now and literally have no friends hear :( I try to make friends but due to my disability some mothers don’t wanna be friends with someone who had a walking stick and a walking frame :( yes I have a disability but it won’t stop me from being a mum and making friends :( but yeah I do struggle and my confidence has been knocked by this honestly :( I don’t drive due to my complications aswell :( just would love to have mama friends :( even my husband and is struggling to which I feel bad for tbh as it isn’t just us woman who suffer but our partners to

How often do you see parents after having baby

Hi everyone how often do you see your mum/dad for help with your baby whether it’s them coming to you or you going to theirs. I feel like I’m constantly wanting to be around my mum for emotional support and so that I’m not lonely I currently have an almost 4 month old but my mum said she will only come and visit me once a week now and I’m finding that hard! She lives an hour away from me. Maybe I’m just not dealing with things very well.

Back to work

Morning lovely mammas

I've started back at work last week and I feel absolutely awful for leaving my daughter. She's nearly 8 months old. She 2 days with dad and 3 half a days at nursery. But I'm feeling very guilty that I've had to go to work and leave her. I never imagined it would be so hard. I'm constantly telling myself it's so I can get some money to buy her presents for her birthday and Christmas but I can't seem to shift this feeling.

Anyone else feeling like that?