Can’t afford baby no.2

Anyone else love a second baby but just simply can’t afford to. Can’t afford to go on mat leave whilst paying nursery fees, also the worry of just food costs, house bills, mortgage, new clothes ect.
People say to me ‘oh it’s just money’ but actually it’s important to be able to provide a warm home with food on the table and clean clothes that fit as an absolute minimum.
Hoping once he gets funded hours that we will feel we are able to give him a sibling! We’re in Scotland so don’t get any funded hours until 3 years old.

in our community

What do you do when you don't think a child is good to hang around with?

So my 3 year old has a friend who likes to lie/ get him in trouble / aggregate him etc etc. I feel she bring out the worst in him. He's much calmer around all other friends. I'm sick and tired of defending him and have no fun on these play dates. I find the mom extremely hard work and she thinks her kid is never in the wrong.

Mother in law

My mother in law is due to stay with us from tomorrow for a week or so.
There's an event that I've been excited about for a month now that we can do as a family (mum, dad and baby)
I don't particularly want my mother in law to come with us because I just want it to be a family thing we do as we don't do too much as a family of three.
Am I wrong to be thinking like that or asking my husband?

Would you rather a WFH husband or one that works from the office/out of the house?

I love my husband but he works from home, the last 9 months we’ve been at home together with the baby and I am sorry to admit that I am kind of sick of the sight of his face and the sound of his voice!!! I love him but I feel like I just need a degree of separation and space!! I used to go to work every day full time so we would only be together on evenings and weekends… this much time together is too much!

Normal toddler behavior?

My 18 month old is pretty rambunctious! She prefers to run, climb and play rather than sit still in a circle. We’ve been to a few indoor toddler play classes, and she doesn’t spend as much time watching the teacher as some other little ones do. She likes to be on the move.

I’m thinking about taking her to a library class in the morning but I’m nervous she’ll be more interested in playing with whatever’s available and getting into everything than listening to the story. I don’t know if I should feel embarrassed by her behavior, like I’m doing something wrong?

Is this normal? At what age do they start to follow instructions more consistently? I’m a first time mom. 😅

Feeling like a failing mother

I don’t really know how to say this without sounding silly, but I just wondered if anyone else is finding it really, really hard at the moment?

I’ve got a 2 year old and a 7 month old, and my partner is working all the time so I’m on my own with them most days. Some days I look around and feel like I’m failing at everything—like the house is never clean enough, I’m always rushing, and I feel so lonely even though I’m never actually by myself.

And honestly? Money is so tight right now I don’t know how we’re going to get through the next week. We’ve barely any food left for the little ones, and nothing coming in until the 9th. I feel awful admitting it, like I should be managing better somehow.

Just wondered if anyone else is in the same boat, or if it really is just me struggling this much lately? 💛

Lustful husband

Advice welcomed please. I am approaching 9 years with my husband. We have two children together, who are both under 3 years old. I’ve dealt with him emotionally cheating twice, pre marriage and pre babies, and like a dummy I had forgiven him. When I would find out, he would tell me how terrible he felt and how he regretted everything and would work hard to gain my trust again. BTW I’ve constantly explained to him throughout our whole relationship that his lustful actions of watching corn and looking up instagram baddies felt disrespectful to me. After we got married and had kids, he convinced me that none of that was going to happen anymore and I believed him because he started to turn more to God and his phone was generally clean when I would check. Sometimes I seen he would slip up and look up big 🍑 latinas, but forgave him since he would show remorse. 2 days ago, I seen he searched “so cal swingers” on Reddit website where it showed many inappropriate pics and couples looking for another male in their relationship. Mind you, I’m not into that. His excuses for his past actions was that he was “young and dumb”, his excuse now is that it’s my fault because I don’t put up enough. We do it once a week, of course more would be great but our 2 kids are so clingy. We agreed we would just coparent now that the damages in our relationship seem irreversible. Are there any men out there that are not lustful at all?? Hearing other women’s experiences, all men are the same. If all men are the same I would just rather stick with the one I got or just be single. I’m afraid to contact family or friends about this because knowing the dummy I am, I would want to repair for the sake of my own family. As a stay at home mom, I don’t have any of my own income to get my own place. Not sure what to do.