TW: Miscarriage

My pregnancy has been short lived unfortunately. I found out I was pregnant on May 27th but I have been measuring behind the entire time. The last ultrasound I had done my baby had only grown two days within 11 days. And the time before that it only grown one week within two weeks. They told me there is no heartbeat and that this is not a viable pregnancy. I have three options to either miscarry naturally, have a D&C or take pills to induce the miscarriage. I honestly don’t know what to do. I work full-time and have two kids at home already that are four and six. I told them I don’t want to get rid of this baby if there’s any chance but they seem sure that it’s non-viable but agreed to do one last ultrasound to ease my mind. Since I work full-time and have vacation coming up I’m just wondering if I should do the D&C to get it over with. Has anyone been through this and what decision did you make and did it take a while for you to miscarry on your own if you decided not to have any medical interventions done? They told me it can take up to a month for it to happen naturally. I also don’t want to take the pill and go through something traumatic when a D&C can be done quickly. Since we are going on vacation at the end of the month, I want to make sure this is taken care of before we go.

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I'm so sorry you're going through this.
I was not in the exact same situation as you but I went to my 12 week scan and found out that I was only measuring at 8 weeks and there was no heartbeat. I was given the same options as you and I decided to book in for a D&C. However, it seemed that my body then realised what had happened and I started miscarrying a couple of days before the D&C date. It was the most painful thing I have been through and I feel it made the situation so much worse. I also ended up with an infection in my womb which topped it off. I wish I had been able to have the D&C and not have to suffer the physical pain of the miscarriage aswell as the emotional pain.

I’m so sorry for your loss 😢 I had a missed miscarriage last year and wanted to wait to miscarry naturally but we found out on the 13th April and by 6th May still nothing had happened so I went back and ended up with the tablets and to be honest I wish I had a D&C everyone is different but for me personally I was in a lot of pain and found the whole thing quite traumatic! I also found when I had my second born in March when my waters broke it sent me into a panic as it felt the same as when I was miscarrying!

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