Spending

If your a single mum with one child. How much do you spend on food and toiletries? Does £450 a month seem a lot?

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Lustful husband

Advice welcomed please. I am approaching 9 years with my husband. We have two children together, who are both under 3 years old. I’ve dealt with him emotionally cheating twice, pre marriage and pre babies, and like a dummy I had forgiven him. When I would find out, he would tell me how terrible he felt and how he regretted everything and would work hard to gain my trust again. BTW I’ve constantly explained to him throughout our whole relationship that his lustful actions of watching corn and looking up instagram baddies felt disrespectful to me. After we got married and had kids, he convinced me that none of that was going to happen anymore and I believed him because he started to turn more to God and his phone was generally clean when I would check. Sometimes I seen he would slip up and look up big 🍑 latinas, but forgave him since he would show remorse. 2 days ago, I seen he searched “so cal swingers” on Reddit website where it showed many inappropriate pics and couples looking for another male in their relationship. Mind you, I’m not into that. His excuses for his past actions was that he was “young and dumb”, his excuse now is that it’s my fault because I don’t put up enough. We do it once a week, of course more would be great but our 2 kids are so clingy. We agreed we would just coparent now that the damages in our relationship seem irreversible. Are there any men out there that are not lustful at all?? Hearing other women’s experiences, all men are the same. If all men are the same I would just rather stick with the one I got or just be single. I’m afraid to contact family or friends about this because knowing the dummy I am, I would want to repair for the sake of my own family. As a stay at home mom, I don’t have any of my own income to get my own place. Not sure what to do.

Would you rather a WFH husband or one that works from the office/out of the house?

I love my husband but he works from home, the last 9 months we’ve been at home together with the baby and I am sorry to admit that I am kind of sick of the sight of his face and the sound of his voice!!! I love him but I feel like I just need a degree of separation and space!! I used to go to work every day full time so we would only be together on evenings and weekends… this much time together is too much!

Normal toddler behavior?

My 18 month old is pretty rambunctious! She prefers to run, climb and play rather than sit still in a circle. We’ve been to a few indoor toddler play classes, and she doesn’t spend as much time watching the teacher as some other little ones do. She likes to be on the move.

I’m thinking about taking her to a library class in the morning but I’m nervous she’ll be more interested in playing with whatever’s available and getting into everything than listening to the story. I don’t know if I should feel embarrassed by her behavior, like I’m doing something wrong?

Is this normal? At what age do they start to follow instructions more consistently? I’m a first time mom. 😅

30 hours free childcare - partner earns almost over the threshold

Does anyone have experience with HMRC calling to talk about this? My partner works on commission and may earn over the threshold to be entitled to it this year. I don’t know what to expect from the phone call.
Are they helpful? Or are they doing their best to take the childcare hours away from us??

Possible to teeth at 2 months?

My little boy has recently turned two months old. He has not long discovered his hands and sucks them and his thumb to self soothe.

However, this week he has been drooling a lot and has been more irritable and fussy in general sometimes. Also, I’m not sure if it’s relevant but I EBF and is really fussy on the boob at times. I am just curious if he could be teething at this age. I have given him infant calpol just in case he is in any pain. His cheeks are a little red, temperature is fine and I have checked his gums and they appear to be fine.

His sleep at night is completely fine and he naps throughout the day. We don’t have a routine as such because he still is so young, but we just follow his cues.

Maybe he is going through a developmental milestone.

Has anyone else experienced this?

Pee free carpet

How are we keeping our carpets clean when potty training?