baby daddy issues

How do I cope with getting cheated on while pregnant. And now he’s trying to come back to me after torturing my whole pregnancy that his child “isn’t his child”. What do I do. Do I get back with him for the sake of my baby and try to work it out?? I’ve provided everything my baby could possibly need and now struggling and the father of my child hasn’t paid a dime but he says if I get a paternity test he will help me out with our child and said he will only help me out if I get back together with him. please help me think straight

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No, don't let him back in ur life

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You’ll only regret it in the future when you’re deeper in it and it’s harder to leave. Someone who cheats does NOT respect you and will cheat again. Don’t do it. You can do it on your own, I promise.

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If he says he will only help out if you get back with him, he's putting a condition on the amount of care he will give/love he will give to your child. And that condition may change one day if he already set this sort of condition down ("my parental care is conditional love"). I would try to see anyway if he could help take care or provide somehow, but I wouldn't get back into a couple relationship with him.

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