Switched to pumping

I have switched to pumping for my sanity and comfort. I was missing enjoying my newborn as I was so obsessed with breastfeeding her correctly. I've given in and offered formula this morning and building up some expressed milk to give. I have set a timer for 2 hourly to pump and attempting 15 mins on each side. any routines, tips, tricks, advice for pumping life?

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Feeding to sleep

At what age did you stop feeding to sleep?

I have a 3.5 month old and have been feeding to sleep since birth. I don't plan on changing this anytime soon but am curious when mamas changed this up, reasons why, and what you do instead?

Feeling like a broken woman.

My daughter will be 6 months old in a few days time, and I feel like I am just drowning in sleep deprivation and I am miserable.

First off she was a very grumpy baby from 5 weeks old due to undiagnosed CMPA and severe reflux which finally got sorted about 2.5 months ago. And her sleep some what improved. Then we hit the 4 month sleep regression and she became grumpy and fussy all over again with nights being so different to the last and unpredictable.

Now I’m not sure what’s going on, but she literally goes down at 7pm and then will wake up babbling, grabbing feet for anything from 1-3hrs from 1am and once I manage to get her to sleep she wakes again and I am just tired as hell. She has also started rolling from back to tummy but can’t get from tummy to back and she gets very frustrated but carries on doing it every 3 minutes so I’m constantly having to mover her back over for her to do it again. Her day time naps are all over the place, yesterday she napped quite a lot but she’s also not been herself as she has a gunky eye (which I am seeing the GP today for)

I feel like it’s just one thing after another and nothing is ever consistent (she’s my second child - my first was so easy)

Please any advice on what I can do to tweak what is happening or if this is completely normal for 6 months. Or is my baby just going to be one of them babies 🫣☹️🥲

Would this bother you?

My “best friend” and I have been friends for over 15 years and were bridesmaids at each others weddings, Godmothers for each others kids etc. However, I’ve been having a bit of a tough time over the last few years and I just feel like she hasn’t been there for me at all.

I don’t really talk about stuff lots as I don’t want to be really miserable to be around, bit shes fully aware of everything that’s been happening, and she sort of just dismisses it all. My 4 year old is very challenging and we think has ADHD, and he has some massive meltdowns. Twice I’ve messaged her saying we had to leave events as he had awful meltdowns and I ended up getting home and just crying, and all she commented both times was that the events we were at “sounded lovely”. On the day we had the health visitor round because we wanted to see if we could get some support, she texted and asked what I’d been up to and I mentioned that and she completely ignored it and just replied about something else I’d said. I’ve also had 6 miscarriages and during the last one last year I told her I was pregnant again and was so scared of the ultrasound I was having through the recurrent miscarriage clinic. She didn’t even text me again until a week after the scan, and even then never brought it up until I mentioned it to her.

The most recent thing that has sort of caused me to think about everything is last week my son had a surgical procedure under general anaesthetic. It wasn’t a big procedure but I told her how scared I was as it was really traumatic last time when he had general anaesthetic, and also the results of the tests he was having could indicate he needs major surgery. Again a week went by before she texted, and her text was all about other stuff with an “How did the appointment go?” thrown in at the end. I told her this time I felt upset that she hadn’t messaged and she just said “Definitely wasn’t deliberate. How did it go?” I haven’t yet replied.

I know everyone has busy lives, but I know I’d have messaged my best friend in less than a week if her child was having surgery or if she was having an ultrasound after 5 miscarriages, and it’s just made me really sad and think maybe it’s time to quietly end the friendship. However, I know I’m very sensitive and even more so at the moment, so I just wanted to get a bit of perspective from others. Is this something that would bother you or not?

Tired tired

10 wakings in total and one tired mama. If the dad calls me crancy today when he gets 8-9 hours unintrupted sleep i may just scream🥱😴

First time mum struggling

Im a first time mum in my 20s and im really starting to struggle with settling my baby girl that’s just turned 6 weeks today she’s hit the 6-8 weeks crying peak mark the hospital never showed me anything on how to settle her I make sure her nappy is changed she’s had her milk ect but still don’t settle my partner has me waking him up in all the hours of the night to help me as I can’t handle her screaming at me like I’m doing everything wrong and I’m a bad mum when I’m trying to cuddle her can anyone help with any tips

Straining to poop

lol guys is this normal I feel like my baby (4 weeks old) is always straining or trying so hard/ pushing so hard to poo. ALOT of the times it wakes him up from sleeping and sometimes he turn red and cries… it hurts me to see him struggling and idk what to do. I do mostly breastmilk , pumping and sometimes similac. I can’t tell if it’s coming from the formula or not but it’s seemingly random. What do you guys think ? Is this a normal thing that all babies go through ?