Feeling like a broken woman.

My daughter will be 6 months old in a few days time, and I feel like I am just drowning in sleep deprivation and I am miserable.

First off she was a very grumpy baby from 5 weeks old due to undiagnosed CMPA and severe reflux which finally got sorted about 2.5 months ago. And her sleep some what improved. Then we hit the 4 month sleep regression and she became grumpy and fussy all over again with nights being so different to the last and unpredictable.

Now I’m not sure what’s going on, but she literally goes down at 7pm and then will wake up babbling, grabbing feed for anything from 1-3hrs from 1am and once I manage to get her to sleep she wakes again and I am just tired as hell. She has also started rolling from back to tummy but can’t get from tummy to back and she gets very frustrated but carries on doing it every 3 minutes so I’m constantly having to mover her back over for her to do it again. Her day time naps are all over the place, yesterday she napped quite a lot but she’s also not been herself as she has a gunky eye (which I am seeing the GP today for)

I feel like it’s just one thing after another and nothing is ever consistent (she’s my second child - my first was so easy)

Please any advice on what I can do to tweak what is happening or if this is completely normal for 6 months. Or is my baby just going to be one of them babies 🫣☹️🥲

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Feeding to sleep

At what age did you stop feeding to sleep?

I have a 3.5 month old and have been feeding to sleep since birth. I don't plan on changing this anytime soon but am curious when mamas changed this up, reasons why, and what you do instead?

Witching hour

Please help me is this witching hour it’s been going on for 2 hours and nothing is comforting him, changed him fed him been rocking him tried him down I don’t know what to do

Sex after a baby

I had a c section 8 weeks ago, and sex is IMPOSSIBLE I have so much pain like my body is rejecting it & it feels like the first time having sex again. Is this normal? Is anyone else the same?

Would this bother you?

My “best friend” and I have been friends for over 15 years and were bridesmaids at each others weddings, Godmothers for each others kids etc. However, I’ve been having a bit of a tough time over the last few years and I just feel like she hasn’t been there for me at all.

I don’t really talk about stuff lots as I don’t want to be really miserable to be around, bit shes fully aware of everything that’s been happening, and she sort of just dismisses it all. My 4 year old is very challenging and we think has ADHD, and he has some massive meltdowns. Twice I’ve messaged her saying we had to leave events as he had awful meltdowns and I ended up getting home and just crying, and all she commented both times was that the events we were at “sounded lovely”. On the day we had the health visitor round because we wanted to see if we could get some support, she texted and asked what I’d been up to and I mentioned that and she completely ignored it and just replied about something else I’d said. I’ve also had 6 miscarriages and during the last one last year I told her I was pregnant again and was so scared of the ultrasound I was having through the recurrent miscarriage clinic. She didn’t even text me again until a week after the scan, and even then never brought it up until I mentioned it to her.

The most recent thing that has sort of caused me to think about everything is last week my son had a surgical procedure under general anaesthetic. It wasn’t a big procedure but I told her how scared I was as it was really traumatic last time when he had general anaesthetic, and also the results of the tests he was having could indicate he needs major surgery. Again a week went by before she texted, and her text was all about other stuff with an “How did the appointment go?” thrown in at the end. I told her this time I felt upset that she hadn’t messaged and she just said “Definitely wasn’t deliberate. How did it go?” I haven’t yet replied.

I know everyone has busy lives, but I know I’d have messaged my best friend in less than a week if her child was having surgery or if she was having an ultrasound after 5 miscarriages, and it’s just made me really sad and think maybe it’s time to quietly end the friendship. However, I know I’m very sensitive and even more so at the moment, so I just wanted to get a bit of perspective from others. Is this something that would bother you or not?

second baby mum guilt

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i miss her every night and it’s starting to get too much, i just feel like im failing her in every avenue and i don’t want her to feel like she’s being abandoned or replaced

my mum can’t stay with us forever, eventually i will need to figure out a routine that means i can be accessible to both girls

i am utterly terrified and i can’t stop myself from regretting having my second baby, i was initially with her dad but we split a short while into the pregnancy and he’s no longer involved, i just sometimes wish i did things completely different and i hate myself for thinking like that

i feel completely stuck and alone

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Just after some advice! I know it’s said that bottles, dummies etc are only sterile for 24 hours of being sterilised - how do I go about making sure everything is sterilised before I give birth when you don’t know when your going to give birth! Obviously can’t do it in advance as they won’t be sterilise by the time he’s born and home!

Hope this makes sense, my brain can’t get wrapped around it🙈