Breastfeeding Mums only: Did anyone have to wean earlier then you wanted due to over stimulation or nursing issues (toddler)?

I really wanted to make it to the 2 year mark and see how our son is feeling and how I am feeling after that. However, lately with on-going issues I am thinking of weaning early and am just not sure due to the fact that I will be breastfeeding baby #2 when he arrives anyway. The issues I have been having is that I find I am spending more time unlatching my toddler then latching because I find he is now sometimes messing about when nursing. I'm not sure if it is because I have a low supply or no supply due to pregnancy, I tried to hand express but nothing and don't want to pump due to risks of pre-term labour (I am 30 weeks). When I say he messes about I mean that he will sometimes just lay there with the nip in his mouth or he will just let it flip in and out of his mouth (so I take him off), other times it feels like he is just chewing on it without using teeth, a few times lately he has just tried to bring the whole boob into his mouth and left bruises. The main thing is I find it really over stimulating at night because he can stay on it for an hour straight, even when he falls asleep I try to easily unlatch him and then he just wakes and goes back to it again. This is especially hard considering how many times I need to relieve the bladder, so a few times I got nursing trapped with a full bladder. Last night was an example, as he woke at 1:30am and didn't go back to sleep until 3:15am and the entire time he was trying to stay on le booby. I find I get a really itchy feeling now when nursing at certain times, but I'm so on the fence... I don't know if it's going to be more stressful having him kick off and cry if I try to wean or to just continue to 2 years which is only 2 months away and given the fact that I'm going to breastfeed anyway. It's so confusing... Also should add that he rarely feeds outside of his one nap and bedtime, the nap isn't the issue it is the bedtime that I find hard. Any help would be great if you weaned earlier than planned for similar reasons.

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10 wakings in total and one tired mama. If the dad calls me crancy today when he gets 8-9 hours unintrupted sleep i may just scream🥱😴

Feeling like a broken woman.

My daughter will be 6 months old in a few days time, and I feel like I am just drowning in sleep deprivation and I am miserable.

First off she was a very grumpy baby from 5 weeks old due to undiagnosed CMPA and severe reflux which finally got sorted about 2.5 months ago. And her sleep some what improved. Then we hit the 4 month sleep regression and she became grumpy and fussy all over again with nights being so different to the last and unpredictable.

Now I’m not sure what’s going on, but she literally goes down at 7pm and then will wake up babbling, grabbing feet for anything from 1-3hrs from 1am and once I manage to get her to sleep she wakes again and I am just tired as hell. She has also started rolling from back to tummy but can’t get from tummy to back and she gets very frustrated but carries on doing it every 3 minutes so I’m constantly having to mover her back over for her to do it again. Her day time naps are all over the place, yesterday she napped quite a lot but she’s also not been herself as she has a gunky eye (which I am seeing the GP today for)

I feel like it’s just one thing after another and nothing is ever consistent (she’s my second child - my first was so easy)

Please any advice on what I can do to tweak what is happening or if this is completely normal for 6 months. Or is my baby just going to be one of them babies 🫣☹️🥲

First time mum struggling

Im a first time mum in my 20s and im really starting to struggle with settling my baby girl that’s just turned 6 weeks today she’s hit the 6-8 weeks crying peak mark the hospital never showed me anything on how to settle her I make sure her nappy is changed she’s had her milk ect but still don’t settle my partner has me waking him up in all the hours of the night to help me as I can’t handle her screaming at me like I’m doing everything wrong and I’m a bad mum when I’m trying to cuddle her can anyone help with any tips

Day routine

Hi all, what does everyone’s day look like? I feel I’m not doing enough play etc with my LO. I read the sleepy cues but I just don’t know what else to do in the wake windows. (8 weeks old)

Advice

My baby is 17 days old, the last couple of nights we’ve noticed she gets extremely upset when passing wind. Last night was the worst, she was screaming at the top of her lungs and nothing was working until she eventually crashed on my partners chest while he paced up and down. Is this normal? What can I do to help? We’re doing all the usual stuff, bicycle legs, warm bath, burping regularly during feeds. I’m just terrified of colic.

Depression talking 🫩

I don’t like being left alone with my baby all day everyday. I’m tired, my house is a mess, I’m getting less and less help from my partner and I just need a day to sleep by myself in a dark room with no baby constantly touching me and no man asking me stupid questions. Idk how to change this cycle I’m in bc my anxiety is also through the roof and I have convinced myself that my baby is only ever truly safe with me… so I stay with her all day and she sleeps in her bassinet right next to me and I bring her with me when I have to use the bathroom and I never truly get a break.
I’m sad often
I worry always
And I’m exhausted bc my brain won’t shut off.
I wish my body would just let me cry but I can’t so here I am ranting to a bunch of strangers.

I need friends that enjoy going over to each others houses with no real expectations other than hanging out with each other, talking, and hanging out with the kiddos.