Childcare cost

I'm due back to work in September. I have an okay job where I earn around £40k / year but with the cost of the childcare (even with the funding included), I will have nothing left at the end of the month. I'm planning to go back 4 days a week so my salary would reduce accordingly. I am in absolute shock as before I have saved around £600 / month. How can people even afford to live?? I am literally heartbroken..

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Not sure where you’re based, but I’ve been looking at nursery’s and was shocked with some of the prices and charges. We found a childminder/nursery (she has 8 staff and 15 children max) and only pay £6.50 a day with hot lunch, snacks and trips included.

Can you look around to see if a childminder may be better? X

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I’m a bit confused when you say you’ll have nothing left. If I assume you work a 9-5 job, then reducing your hrs to 4 days P/W would leave you with a pro-rata’d salary of around 32k per year, which is around 2,650 pre tax a month.
If you’re eligible for funding and your child is in nursery for the full 4 days then you’ll have 22hrs funded and 18 at full charge. I’ve worked this out based on my own nursery charges and that would cost around 1k a month less 25% that you’d benefit from the tax free childcare scheme.

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FIL still can’t spell name correctly

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At this point I’m starting to feel blatantly disrespected. Like I’ve had 2 of his grandchildren and he can’t be bothered to learn the correct spelling of my first name!

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How would you feel? Comment what you would suggest I do.

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I just need to vent.

Im scared of my nonverbal autistic son. He has been having behavioral issues for awhile. He's hit me, grabbed my head and headbutted me a few occasions. Hes much bigger and stronger than me at 11 years old. This has been addressed with the appropriate therapists. However his therapists and school teachers have brought up their concerns multiple times in regards to when he hits puberty and his aggressive behavior increases. Theyre worried for my safety and ive been asked to look into seeing about part time group homes in case it gets to a point where I can no longer care for him on my own. Im just devastated. The entirety of his childhood ive had to grapple with the knowing that our lives will never be normal, ill never do the normal things that other moms get to do with their sons. But something kept me going.. and that something I was holding on to was that my baby boy will live with me forever. That was what got me through these dark days. Now I don't have that. Im lost on how to cope. My biggest comfort was knowing I have so much time. Now I have even less time than parents of nuerotypical kids. My heart hurts. And this time I'm not sure if it will ever stop.

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How are we all feeling?

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Just wondered how many weeks everyone’s at and what their experiences are? Just wanted to vent to other people in the same boat who get it. I feel like friends and family are sympathetic but they’re not living it.

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Soo fed up

I swear ive got the most miserable baby ever all he does is scream, feed or sleep, its awful.
(Hes my 2nd baby)

My 1st was demanding but this is another level.

He literally screams all the time if I walk away from him for wee, to do anything, he wants you 1 on 1 all the time and it just isnt possible having a 2yr old aswell.

The occasions he isnt screaming are so few I rekon I could count on 1 hand, could even be no more than 3 occasions ive felt hes not been a misery.

I just would like some reassurance that there's people out there in the same boat and that this is going to pass?

Hes 10 weeks old but it doesn't seem to be improving at all, im starting to question if maybe he has an allergy or something im ebf but I cant think of any other reason why hes so angry all the time 😭

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