Dont want more kids?
Ok, so I am a 35 year old first time mom. My baby is 3 months old.
When i was younger i always thought I would have many kids but as I grew older the number kept going down. We have tried for our first baby for a 4 years and she finally came. During the 4 years of trying i got to a point and said if I am nit pregnant by 35 I would not have any kids. I am so blessed fir our little girl but is it weird for me to already think i dont want any more?
I already feel "old" and not physically fit and I really want to be there for my kid.
Anyone else felt the same? How do you truly know you are done having kids? Why do people always ask - whens the next?? Like 1 kid is not normal.
Am I being selfish by not giving my daughter a sibling?
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I always said I didnt want anymore after 35.
Had my 1st when I was 25 and suffered postnatal depression so took many years to find me again.
Then met my husband when I was 31. Had second at 33. Knew we wanted one more took a year and a half finally had my 5 month old in January and I turned 36 in April.
We are done now 3 is enough, I'm exhausted and I feel too old.
You do what's best for you
Mine is a similar situation. Tried for years with my ex-husband fir a baby including several rounds if IVF. When we split I made my peace that it may never happen for me. Lucky enough to have met a wonderful man ( has two sons aged 15 and 10) and we welcomed our baby boy a month ago.
I am 36 and so deleriously happy that I got to have my baby. BUT my God don't I know it that I don't want any more 🤣 I've heard other women describe it like a hormonal switch and it goes off as quickly as it went on - that's exactly how I feel about it. Listen to your body and your instincts for the answer xx
I totally understand this. When I was younger I always wanted lots of kids, now that I see that in order to be kind of mum I want to be, and still have time for myself and my marriage, 1 child is the perfect number for us!
I don’t think it’s selfish at all, I think it’s very reasonable and emotionally mature to be able to recognise it’s simply not right for you
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