Just Mentally tired.

Hi everyone just looking to vent new mum  with ppd . I live with my husband but he's not really supportive financially or with our child. Im starting to be resentful towards him and other family members.l haven't had a day off since i was pregnant i do everything buy myself. I have my parents and they work so not much support there as well. I have spoken to my friends and some  other family members about my situation. I  keep getting told it will end give it time.  Im trying to be as strong as i can  for myself and my child. Sometimes im made to feel like terrible mum which I already think I am because of the ppd. Sometimes I don't feel like getting out of bed , clean , eat ,talk . Husband doesn't help with the house chores as well. I am mentally , emotionally and physically tired. im always LONELY always.  I get  judged  about the postpartum depression that I have  , i didn't choose it.
Right now im at a family members house i don't know if that's the best  choice or not. Being here it's not helping because no one helps me as much.
I had started going to work but that's also putting a mental strain on my body.  Parents don't like to babysit.  If i ask husband it's pointless as well.

I want to move out but I have no income support.
What do I do

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