am i overreacting
i had a fight with a group of mum friends and im trying to understand if im overreacting or they are simply wrong .
so they have all girls and me and another 2 have a boy them two never talk and im the only one that actually tried to be part of the group because i wanted my son to have friends from young age , 3 girls two of them 1/1.5 years and one of them 6 months old .
I was really close to the mum with the 6 month old girl , i bought her clothes for the baby, gave her my momscozy baby carrier and she gave it away to a friend because she needed it( she did ask me first and my answer was i gave it to you because you need it and can’t buy it) she ended up buying the same one used on vinted 🤷🏻♀️🤦🏽♀️, paid for meals, drinks and busses when we went out together because i didn’t want her to spend money as its just her and the baby , went over to hers to help cleaning, looking after the baby for her , basically anything .
long story short my baby is the baby is the biggest of them 3 and he is only 8 months with size and weight of a 2 year old , been in 99 percentile since birth and health visitors were always happy with how he was growing,had lots of people along they way telling me to put him on a diet, feed him less and neglect his needs so i always take personal whenever people say something about my son . I sent a picture of what my baby was eating for dinner (some puree vegs and salmon and most of it was on the floor btw ) i can upload a picture if wanted, they started saying it was too much to either reduce the milk or the amount of solids im giving him , he is eating too much etc i got upset, im pregnant and constantly with my baby my hormones are everywhere. My partner decided to reply and basically say that he is always been big and the fact im finally giving him solid doesn’t mean he is over eating and needs feeding less (he has only 2/3 bottles per day btw) they got defensive saying that was just advice and opinions didnt mean anything bad its just feeding like a 2 year old and its not good for him. Didn’t reply. A Few weeks after i decided to send a message and leave the gp where i uploaded pics from google about how much he is feeding etc ,saying ive been feeling left out as they are been meeting alone with me and i felt judged and i just don’t want this for my baby and whoever wants to keep contact with me they have my number. 1 of them replied right after being defensive and rude like a lot , another one apologised as she never meant to make me feel that way she was sharing advice from what her health visitor said to her and i really appreciated it and was happy that she said that so i texted her privately and basically told her thanks etx, left the gp because it was getting toxic and the other one (6 months old baby one) say the chat and instead of texting me and apologised she blocked me and started talking shit about me with the other mum behind my back like she didn’t even have the decency to talk to me she just blocked me after all ive done for her
now am i over reacting and they are just shit friends at least the one i was closest to.
and i have to add this the mum who as the 6 months old baby changes like the weather, changed her buggy because her bestie said this other one was better then she got closer to another girl and changed it again because she said it was better , OH and when i told her she could have my jumperoo she she didn’t have to spend money to buy it she said yes and then after declined because her new friend is buying her one new( she ended up buying it used )😂😂😂😂
lets not even talk about how much i felt judged when i stopped breast feeding and pumping because of my mental health like if im poisoning him with formula 😅🤷🏻♀️
( added an example of food i once gave to him , i can only put 1 pics so i can’t show how much of that he actually ate )
