Would this bother you or am I being too sensitive?

My husband and I are both 27. We’ve been together for 10 years, have a 3 year old son, and I’m currently 30 weeks pregnant.

For years, I’ve told him that I really appreciate little check ins when we’re apart. I don’t mean constant messaging all day, and honestly it doesn’t bother me too much if he’s just out for a few hours. It’s more when he’s away for longer periods, like all day or overnight, that I find it difficult.

Whenever he goes out/away with friends/work, I usually don’t hear from him at all from the moment he leaves until he’s back home. This has caused a lot of arguments over the years because I’ve explained so many times that a simple message saying, “how are things?” or “how’s our son?” would mean a lot to me and make me feel thought about.

He has always said he’d work on it, but nothing has really changed. More recently, he’s told me that it’s just something I need to accept because he gets caught up in the moment and struggles with what he calls object permanence. From what I understand, he means that when he’s focused on what he’s doing, people who aren’t physically there can slip from his mind.

He’s away overnight with friends tonight and I haven’t heard a peep from him since he left this morning.

What makes me question myself is that whenever I’m with friends and they get messages from their partners throughout the day, I’m genuinely shocked and, if I’m honest, a little envious. Again, not because I want constant communication, but because it seems so natural for them to check in and let each other know they’re thinking of one another.

I want him to enjoy himself and have a good time with his friends, but I also want to feel like me and our family cross his mind while he’s away.

Am I overreacting for feeling upset about this?

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Easily offended partner is this normal ?

So our baby 11 months almost choked on a bit of food she found. My partner started to put his fingers down her throat . And I panicked in the moment and said that is not safe to put your fingers down her throat . It can make it worse .

He then got really upset. Telling me things like “you always criticise me, there is always negative feed back , clearly I can’t parent, so you can do it alone “

I’m just tired and don’t understand. If I did put my daughter in danger and he noticed I rather him educate me. I wouldn’t be upset .

He isn’t speaking to me now 😩

Anyone else’s partner also sensitive to negative feedback? What do you do? Do we just suck it up and won’t share anything

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Okay, let me start by saying this is probably a stupid post but it’s annoying me so I’m going to post anyways lol.

So I’m 28 weeks pregnant and one of my lovely symptoms is extreme thirst. When I say I’ve never in my life drank so many fluids lol. I’m an ice person, I HAVE to have ice. I’ve always hated water I still do but I’m trying to make myself drink it more for obvious reasons. However, I can not stomach it at all if I don’t have ice. If it’s not ice cold I can taste every single mineral I swear 🤣 and it’ll immediately come back up. My husband is not an ice person he literally never uses ice, ever. For anything. Well he’s been pissy with me lately (I’m assuming because I do not want to have sex. I’m uncomfortable, I’m in pain, I’m depressed and stressed and he just sucks in general (as a husband not sex) so I’m not I’m just turned off completely. Anyways, our refrigerator doesn’t make ice so I have one of those counter ice makers and I keep making ice so I can have it for my water and every fucking time I go to make myself water there is NO ICE. He has this HUGE cup and he’s completely filling it up using all of my damn ice. There will be like 10 little pieces left in the bin which does nothing but melt instantly. I have to fill my cup completely and then do cold water lol. I am so damn annoyed I could literally punch him in the throat. I know he’s doing it on purpose to be petty and boyyyy I’m pissed lol. Leave my fucking ice alone 😩

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Am I crazy?

We have had issues with my boundaries not being respected when it comes to other women and betrayal with other women. I stayed and things have been better but it's hard. I'm not the type to tell him he can't use his eye balls and notice other pretty women but at what point can I speak up? We just had a massive fight because he's been staring at other women a lot on vacation. I haven't said anything at all but as we are at the gas station getting ready to leave I'm talking to him and he isn't listening.. I realize it's because he's staring at some girl near us. I don't say anything and go to walk away and grab what I need, he then runs over my foot with our double stroller because he thought I kept moving and he was leaning to stare at this girls ass as she walked by... He then follows me for about 15 min acting stupid and saying what's wrong over and over. I yelled at him after him asking me for the tenth time because he knew what the issue was. He then tries to tell me I'm crazy, I exaggerate everything, etc.
I don't know how much longer I can take the bs. I know everyone has different boundaries, but I have made mine clear from the beginning of our relationship. Idk what to do anymore but I'm tired of having to fight constantly to feel respected and heard. I'm drained.

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