Am I crazy?

We have had issues with my boundaries not being respected when it comes to other women and betrayal with other women. I stayed and things have been better but it's hard. I'm not the type to tell him he can't use his eye balls and notice other pretty women but at what point can I speak up? We just had a massive fight because he's been staring at other women a lot on vacation. I haven't said anything at all but as we are at the gas station getting ready to leave I'm talking to him and he isn't listening.. I realize it's because he's staring at some girl near us. I don't say anything and go to walk away and grab what I need, he then runs over my foot with our double stroller because he thought I kept moving and he was leaning to stare at this girls ass as she walked by... He then follows me for about 15 min acting stupid and saying what's wrong over and over. I yelled at him after him asking me for the tenth time because he knew what the issue was. He then tries to tell me I'm crazy, I exaggerate everything, etc.
I don't know how much longer I can take the bs. I know everyone has different boundaries, but I have made mine clear from the beginning of our relationship. Idk what to do anymore but I'm tired of having to fight constantly to feel respected and heard. I'm drained.

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Why does everyone need to be told everything??!!!

Baby is 7 months old almost 8. My husband literally needs to be guided and told everything and it's turning me into a mega bitch. I have so much contempt and resentment. He has to be told baby needs a nappy change or to be fed etc. This is despite me drawing up a whole schedule with times and instructions. I am so sick of being a house manager to my family, sick of being awake all night breastfeeding. I feel used up and used out. I dislike being forced into this role because other people in my family have the luxury of forgetting.

If I forgot anything everything would shut down on top of baby brain, depression and extreme fatigue I have to find a way to function. Everything is a fight. I feel done.

Petty

Okay, let me start by saying this is probably a stupid post but it’s annoying me so I’m going to post anyways lol.

So I’m 28 weeks pregnant and one of my lovely symptoms is extreme thirst. When I say I’ve never in my life drank so many fluids lol. I’m an ice person, I HAVE to have ice. I’ve always hated water I still do but I’m trying to make myself drink it more for obvious reasons. However, I can not stomach it at all if I don’t have ice. If it’s not ice cold I can taste every single mineral I swear 🤣 and it’ll immediately come back up. My husband is not an ice person he literally never uses ice, ever. For anything. Well he’s been pissy with me lately (I’m assuming because I do not want to have sex. I’m uncomfortable, I’m in pain, I’m depressed and stressed and he just sucks in general (as a husband not sex) so I’m not I’m just turned off completely. Anyways, our refrigerator doesn’t make ice so I have one of those counter ice makers and I keep making ice so I can have it for my water and every fucking time I go to make myself water there is NO ICE. He has this HUGE cup and he’s completely filling it up using all of my damn ice. There will be like 10 little pieces left in the bin which does nothing but melt instantly. I have to fill my cup completely and then do cold water lol. I am so damn annoyed I could literally punch him in the throat. I know he’s doing it on purpose to be petty and boyyyy I’m pissed lol. Leave my fucking ice alone 😩

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Just here to vent somewhere, feeling isolated in this.

My husband and I got in an argument.
I’m conflict avoidant and usually choose the peaceful route, even if that means holding back from saying things I want to say and I’ll apologize for my role and make it clear I don’t want to argue, just address or resolve _____ .

He on the other hand is very immature - he fights to fight, he wants it to escalate and wants nothing to do with any apologizing or resolution or calm tone. He’ll say mean things, make threats and turn it into a toxic game instead of an adult disagreement. At that point I just retreat. You can’t get anywhere with that behavior. After a few hours he’ll just start teasing me or be randomly nice - never address what happened - and sweep it under the rug with playfulness.
But If I respond frustrated or upset and don’t go along with it, he becomes the victim. “I was just trying to be cool and you want to be all sad and have an issue so FUCK IT” “you want me to be the bad guy - I’ll be the bad guy” and I’ll desperately try to explain, nothing has been addressed and I’m upset right now or my feelings are hurt by what he said and he just railroads me with petty statements so I just ignore him until it fully blows over.

I am frustrated with the dynamic. I give him so much grace and set the bar way too low in the beginning that he now doesn’t see his lack and how he treats me. I do everything in the home - everything for the kids - and work from home as well. I go above and beyond trying to handle it all and he constantly sees me overwhelmed or needing help and the moment he’s off work, he plays games and does what he wants to do until bed. I don’t harass him about it because it gets me nowhere. I don’t act resentful, I just do what I need to do no matter how much I have to suffer because I’d rather have peace in the house then argue with a grown man who should know better.

I’m starting to think that for many women, even though we’ve progressed, many men are not equal to us in maturity and tenacity for handling the life we share. I don’t have the energy to fight, to blow up our family, to think on it too much…it just feels like women are very under appreciated as a whole, unseen often and trying to make sense of how we fell in love or developed a life with a person when more naive to these realities and now when in it deep - all we want is for some common decency, and they think they should get an award for doing one task sometimes and generally being nice and going to work.

Then if seeking advice, most people reduce an entire family life and situation to “just leave”. I don’t feel like that’s a solution either. I don’t want to leave, I want to figure out how to get him to see the reality of how his actions affect me and our kids even if it isn’t spoken to him. I want him to recognize human to human that more work should be shared…and it’s not right to take advantage of another persons tendency to handle all of the things. I want him to learn that we can have an argument or make mistakes and work with each other to fix it and voice frustrations and anger without saying hurtful things or escalating with threats.
It’s like dealing with a teenager when I need him to be the one person I can let go of the reigns with and trust he’s got it.

It’s exhausting

School 4 year old

My daughter came out of school and told me she was punched by another sutured in her class and told the teacher when she told the teach she told the girl who hit her to say sorry to my daughter but also for my daughter to say sorry… I wasn’t informed by any teachers this happened but also confused on why my daughter had to apologise to someone else behaviour. What are your mums thoughts please

Struggling with husband

I feel like I have to parent him as well as our kids. He is always bickering with our 3 year old so I have to intervene. He lacks common sense - like he can't understand why it's not okay to leave our toddler and baby unattended whilst he does whatever he needs to do. I do all the night feeds and wake ups yet he moans if I wake him up at 6 so I can catch up on some sleep. He said the other day I was expecting too much of him as a dad because I asked him to be more patient with our toddler who is struggling with the transition. Just so fed up with him feel like it'd be easier on my own sometimes

Getting things done

My LO is currently 2 weeks old and was born 4 weeks early, I'm just trying to figure out how to get jobs done around the house and have her with me.
She's too small to use a baby wrap as they all suggest minimum weight is 7 pounds and she's 5 at the moment.
Just was hoping for a suggestion on what I can do, I have a car seat I can move her around in but it's quite bulky and heavy, also not the most comfortable for her