Why does everyone need to be told everything??!!!

Baby is 7 months old almost 8. My husband literally needs to be guided and told everything and it's turning me into a mega bitch. I have so much contempt and resentment. He has to be told baby needs a nappy change or to be fed etc. This is despite me drawing up a whole schedule with times and instructions. I am so sick of being a house manager to my family, sick of being awake all night breastfeeding. I feel used up and used out. I dislike being forced into this role because other people in my family have the luxury of forgetting.

If I forgot anything everything would shut down on top of baby brain, depression and extreme fatigue I have to find a way to function. Everything is a fight. I feel done.

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Dont. I know how you feel. Sometimes I have to tell my partner etc but just think of the big goal, your baby loves you, looks up to you and lots of memories to be made

Your feelings are completely valid, but remember your partner is a new parent too. He is learning as-well he won’t get it right all the time. Maybe sit him down and tell him how you’re feeling and you need some more support. I felt this way towards my partner for the first couple of months and I kept it in until I exploded and we got into a huge argument. It wasn’t nice and at the end of it he ended up saying “why didn’t you say instead of building all this resentment towards me” since then he’s been ontop of everything and tries his best. There’s still some days he misses things and doesn’t get it right but you also have to learn to be patient and accept everything won’t be done completely your way. You’re doing amazing and this will pass! Communicate mama, it’s okay to not feel okay don’t keep it in though xx

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