Just so mentally exhausted :(

I recently tied the knot with my boyfriend of over 2 years, and at first I was really excited. But that excitement has worn off and it’s like I don’t even wanna be around him anymore.

Yesterday he called me his girlfriend, which stung because shouldn’t you acknowledge me as your wife? Then he spends almost all of his time on his computer or twitter or doing whatever. He’s usually good with our son and takes a lot of the responsibilities but I feel left out a lot.

I’m gonna be a sahm of 2 under 2 soon, and I just genuinely feel so much stress rn. I spend most of my time out in the living room because I’d rather just be by myself than spend another quiet moment in our bedroom.

He either wants to play the game or watch a movie, which he doesn’t even watch. I just don’t know if I can do this anymore with him

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Hey Katie … I’m sorry you are going through this especially being a newly wed … this should be the butterfly season .. was he like this before yall got married ?

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Maybe he made a mistake? If you haven't been married very long it's possible he just kinda slipped up. I mean my husband and I have been married for almost 11 years and he still sometimes calls me "his girlfriend." But it's sort of a joke for us because he made that very exact mistake when we first got married lol he said I was the "best girlfriend." And then when I looked horrified he corrected it, but now it's become a joke/roleplay thing. I'm sorry you're struggling in your marriage and I hope things get better.

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I felt exactly like that during my second pregnancy, so I just wanted to tell you that pregnancy hormones can play a huge role in how we feel. For me, things got so much better about 2 months after my baby was born. I know everyone’s experience is different, but I hope that gives you a little reassurance.
The initial excitement naturally fades in every relationship, especially when you have little ones. Having young children is one of the biggest challenges a couple can go through, and pregnancy can make everything feel even more overwhelming.
From what you’ve said, it doesn’t sound like he’s abusive husband but correct me if I’m wrong. It sounds more like you’re feeling lonely and disconnected from him.
I really think you should tell him exactly how you’re feeling, not in an angry way, but when you’re both calm.
Just open your heart and be honest about your worries and how much you are missing that emotional connection.

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He then got really upset. Telling me things like “you always criticise me, there is always negative feed back , clearly I can’t parent, so you can do it alone “

I’m just tired and don’t understand. If I did put my daughter in danger and he noticed I rather him educate me. I wouldn’t be upset .

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