Am I tripping?

So we all know it’s the 4th of July. It’s my son’s first fourth. My baby dad is in New York. Granted it’s also his birthday but am I tripping for thinking he should wanna spend it with his son? Like doesn’t matter where but it feels like it wasn’t a thought in his mind to spend hot with our son. He hasn’t helped at all except for buying a few clothes but that was months ago, that was around Christmas time, my son is 9 months now. I’ve asked my bd for money for some wipes and to split the cost of a new car seat as my son grew out of his newborn one and was no longer safe in it. I guess he didn’t have the money cuz I didn’t get anything but he has the money for New York. Ugh, tell me, am I tripping for thinking he coulda spend today or even just part of it with our son?

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Yeah I get it girl, my man and I have been together for almost 3 yrs it's our daughters first 4th of July and she's 8 months. He planned his boys trip this week and left yesterday for it, when I asked to go with he got upset and said he didn't want me to and tbh we have been traveling a lot this year so I get it but I'm also frustrated with him for not caring that it's her first 4th of July

It’s just forth of July.
But he should be buying a new car seat if he has money for new York

i’m in NY, when i was 6 months pregnant i packed my shit & moved back up here with my family, because i was living in florida since 2016, met my daughters father a month before i found out i was pregnant and this BOY loves to go back and fourth denying her but then post on IG about how he’s such an amazing father and she changed his life, she’s 7 months old and he has never once met her.

Absolutely not! Currently dealing with a similar situation and im almost at my breaking point

I am of the opinion let these men do what they want and sit back and observe because their actions will tell you what they think is important and if they don't value their kids remove their access to them. I no longer get mad at my bd I removed access and adjusted my expectations. I got tired of being mad. There is nothing you can do about how they move. As mothers we do what we have to for our kids and make sure the kids live their best life regardless of their dad's actions. My advice don't get mad focus on creating the best 4th of July experience for him.

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Easily offended partner is this normal ?

So our baby 11 months almost choked on a bit of food she found. My partner started to put his fingers down her throat . And I panicked in the moment and said that is not safe to put your fingers down her throat . It can make it worse .

He then got really upset. Telling me things like “you always criticise me, there is always negative feed back , clearly I can’t parent, so you can do it alone “

I’m just tired and don’t understand. If I did put my daughter in danger and he noticed I rather him educate me. I wouldn’t be upset .

He isn’t speaking to me now 😩

Anyone else’s partner also sensitive to negative feedback? What do you do? Do we just suck it up and won’t share anything

Getting things done

My LO is currently 2 weeks old and was born 4 weeks early, I'm just trying to figure out how to get jobs done around the house and have her with me.
She's too small to use a baby wrap as they all suggest minimum weight is 7 pounds and she's 5 at the moment.
Just was hoping for a suggestion on what I can do, I have a car seat I can move her around in but it's quite bulky and heavy, also not the most comfortable for her

Am I crazy?

We have had issues with my boundaries not being respected when it comes to other women and betrayal with other women. I stayed and things have been better but it's hard. I'm not the type to tell him he can't use his eye balls and notice other pretty women but at what point can I speak up? We just had a massive fight because he's been staring at other women a lot on vacation. I haven't said anything at all but as we are at the gas station getting ready to leave I'm talking to him and he isn't listening.. I realize it's because he's staring at some girl near us. I don't say anything and go to walk away and grab what I need, he then runs over my foot with our double stroller because he thought I kept moving and he was leaning to stare at this girls ass as she walked by... He then follows me for about 15 min acting stupid and saying what's wrong over and over. I yelled at him after him asking me for the tenth time because he knew what the issue was. He then tries to tell me I'm crazy, I exaggerate everything, etc.
I don't know how much longer I can take the bs. I know everyone has different boundaries, but I have made mine clear from the beginning of our relationship. Idk what to do anymore but I'm tired of having to fight constantly to feel respected and heard. I'm drained.

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Hey ladies I need some information or advice. I currently live with my kids father. We’ve been together for almost 11 years. I have one son that isn’t his but has been in his life since 3 years old. Fast forward he doesn’t buy me anything or the kids. The only thing he gets us is McDonald’s or some candy from the store. Of course Christmas gifts and bday gifts for the boys. But we are all in the house and he is present but not present. He never takes the boys anywhere to spend time with them. He doesn’t worry about me at all. It’s been years like this. Ive been buying groceries, toiletries, clothes and take my boys places all the time spending time with them. I want to put him on child support. My address never changed on my paperwork or drivers license. He got a house from his grandma so it’s only in his name. He has made no effort to build something together. It’s all about him. He never gives me money, buys us anything, every bit of money of his goes to him besides what I mentioned. Can I still apply for child support? What will they want? My kids and I can move back in with my parents with my address that’s on my DL if they would help.

Am I just being hormonal?

Sorry it’s a long one.

So my hubby made plans with Robert (not his real name) almost 2 weeks ago for tonight 4th of July. well as we were 10 mins in to the drive, Robert texts him saying he just got to the area and there’s no parking anywhere so we can’t come. And hubby called his friend Frank (not real name) he’s at a family event but said we can come but I don’t want to go anywhere anymore. The only person I will know is Frank and I won’t have anyone to “hangout” with while hubby hangs out with his friend. I feel like this day is ruined because of Robert and the poor communication and planning. And I’m currently trying to hold back my tears because I was excited to meet Robert’s wife and children. And even got the kids something to play with that I thought would be a good gesture.
Am I overreacting or being hormonal?

Also I’m 17w+5ds.

10 month old pushing food out with tongue and also taking it out of his mouth with hands

I’m very frustrated since he barely eats solids. I know that for now milk is still the main source but I’m getting scared that we are getting nowhere and the 1 year mark is literally around the corner. I used to spoon feed purees and he was doing okay like that until he started getting more active and wanted to feed himself and for most parts he either throws the food or when it’s in mouth he does chew and then pushes out with tongue or just grabs his hands and takes it out himself. It does take a toll on me all the effort and waste. I do 3x a day when I’m also eating, I do not force him and try to encourage and for him to imitate me on how I eat but whatever I do doesn’t seem to work. I’ve also tried different textures, sizes and all. I’m losing hope and feel terrible. If anyone has any tips I’d gladly appreciate them.