How do you stay sane?

At home with a 12 week old and will be alone with her now that husband going back to work. Idk if I can do it alone and I’m worried I’ll go crazy just doing baby stuff constantly. 🥺

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Use the baby nap times intentionally to do things your genuinely enjoy or would help you. Maybe start a new hobby. And try to make other mom friends and carve out time for yourself.

Take advantage of nap time take advantage of bedtime do this little things that matter you bring her down or as time goes by she gets bigger things will get her. She start to play independently and you can get more stuff done.

My baby is 9 months and his naps are very irregular, and it's really hard to make him to sleep... So it's hard for me to do things I really enjoy, when he is finally sleeping I have to do chores around the house. Not sure how other moms have time to do other stuff. Btw I'm also alone with my baby, my husband only took 20 days when my baby was born.

You absolutely can do it. Get outside, even if you just sit in the fresh air. Use nap times for self care (showering, skincare, masks, whatever makes you feel good) or hobbies you actually enjoy or rest yourself. You can listen to audiobooks or podcasts, even when baby is awake. You’ll find your groove, girl

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England game

Just curious, would you be happy for your partner to go out to watch the England v Mexico game tonight at 1am when you are 12 days post partum and still working out the nights together and exclusively breastfeeding? He’s leaving at 10.45 and probs won’t be back until 3ish I’m not sure maybe even longer. He normally does the first half of the night I don’t think I’m gonna get much sleep tonight as he will most likely end up falling asleep when he gets in rather than helping out.

When does it get easier!!!

Parents of older children, what age did you find life got easier? My toddler is 2 and 1/2, everything seems like a fight, getting dressed, brushing teeth, eating dinner, leaving anywhere like the park, tantrums are constant!! It’s honestly exhausting and getting me down. What age did people find everything just gets a bit easier???? I know there is an end in sight but just curious when 🙈

The cool free stuff lol

Hey, do you mind having any recommendations on websites to apply for free stuff for me and the baby even though I’m seven weeks or any cool cheap subscriptions you all could recommend🫶🏾?

Diaper change at night

How’s everyone fitting in diaper changes with nighttime feeds? At first I would change him and then he’d eat, but then I switched to feeding him on one breast changing him and then feeding him on the other breast. He gets hiccups occasionally, so I worry that laying him down in between breast isn’t the best option & wondering if I should go back to changing him before he eats??

Am I overthinking?

I’m a first-time mum and could really use some advice.

My mother-in-law has kindly offered to help with the baby for a few hours so I can get a few things done for myself, which I’m incredibly grateful for.

The first time she looked after her, I came home after a couple of hours and noticed no nappies had been changed. My baby was sitting in a wet nappy. I gently asked if she’d needed changing, and my mother-in-law tapped the front of her vest and said she felt dry. I carefully explained that you need to physically check the nappy because the blue line appears when she’s had a wee, and that you’ll definitely know when she’s done a poo.

Today, she watched the baby while my husband and I ate dinner. As soon as I’d finished, I went to take over and found my baby had a very full poo nappy that hadn’t been changed.

My mother-in-law is looking after her again later this week, and I’m not sure how to approach the situation. I don’t want to upset her because she’s being so kind and is in her 70s, and I also don’t want to put too much on her. At the same time, I don’t want my baby left sitting in a wet or dirty nappy.

Has anyone been in a similar situation? How would you handle this kindly without offending her?