Am I overthinking?

I’m a first-time mum and could really use some advice.

My mother-in-law has kindly offered to help with the baby for a few hours so I can get a few things done for myself, which I’m incredibly grateful for.

The first time she looked after her, I came home after a couple of hours and noticed no nappies had been changed. My baby was sitting in a wet nappy. I gently asked if she’d needed changing, and my mother-in-law tapped the front of her vest and said she felt dry. I carefully explained that you need to physically check the nappy because the blue line appears when she’s had a wee, and that you’ll definitely know when she’s done a poo.

Today, she watched the baby while my husband and I ate dinner. As soon as I’d finished, I went to take over and found my baby had a very full poo nappy that hadn’t been changed.

My mother-in-law is looking after her again later this week, and I’m not sure how to approach the situation. I don’t want to upset her because she’s being so kind and is in her 70s, and I also don’t want to put too much on her. At the same time, I don’t want my baby left sitting in a wet or dirty nappy.

Has anyone been in a similar situation? How would you handle this kindly without offending her?

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