Trying to concieve . 35 female. I hear that people are often in ‘a dark place’ when trying to do this and yes i feel really low. Am i always going to feel this bad whilst TTC? Please tell me im not as I dont know how im meant to cope feeling like this if it takes ages. Anyone done this journey and felt ok or happy? I have a 3 year old currently and trying for baby number 2 for 8 months x
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Yes! 35 and FTM. Remember in a normal healthy woman a normal conception journey is up to 12 months. So don’t let it get you down! Are you tracking ovulation or anything? I used the flo app and I also used Clearblue ovulation trackers. I def got sad everytime I had a negative result though. I think that’s normal as long as you don’t have other depression symptoms.
Thankyou so much for replying, im absolutely desperate to not feel like this or to at least know theres hope that i can be happy on this journey. Ok so were you generally ok during ttc? Im sad most of the time like all day every day. I am missing out on my life and son. I am autistic and had post natal depression so im definitely quite heavy with my emotions. I just need an example of someone who can still be happy and not really really just saf about it every second. Is that you? Please tell me it is as i cant go on like this.

This was me for 10 years, but i found out i had a massive fybroid which was blocking my chances of having kids. I had my operation last march and found out just after the new year 2026 i was pregnant with my first child. Im currently #33 weeks.
Don't give up hope. I used the flo app to check ovulation etc. X

Yeah it really played havoc with my mental health as well as other things bug try staying positive helped. Well thats what everyone kept telling me.. Tbh me and my partner weren't actively trying it just happened tbh.