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First time mums

How would you take this?

Sorry long read..

For context we moved into a new apartment in February and made friends a family a few doors down. They have a daughter close in age to mine so they have been playing together. We often go over each others place, walks, parks things like that. From the day we met her she’s been offering to give us stuff that she no longer needs/wants. Mostly stuff from her daughter since her daughter is older and growing out of things. My husband and I are hesitant on accepting things cause we already have a lot of stuff but have been accepting most things that we think our daughter will like or can fit. We occasionally will offer things as well just not nearly has much as she has to us. Anyways for awhile she’s been saying how she can give us her couch since ours is small and she’s looking to move. We were hesitant cause her couch is much larger than ours but we’re thinking about how it might be good to upgrade and so we never flat out said no. Anyways she’s moving soon and it was awkward but I don’t told her we won’t be taking it anymore. We have a lot of stuff. She seemed disappointed but not upset or anything and went about as usual and even talked about getting together for the 4th and then she ended up bailing. Didn’t think much of it till I was outside with my daughter and saw hers playing outside too so we went over as usual and she looked so pissed. It was very awkward so I just said hi and left. Then today woke up to a long text saying we can’t be friends anymore cause I decided not to take the couch and didn’t even say sorry and now she’s struggling trying to get rid of it and it’s stressful and she feels we are ungrateful for all the things she gave us and said to enjoy all the things she gave us and even listed it out. And what is really rubbing me the wrong way is her saying “I hope you have a happy life and (my daughter’s name) gets all the attention she deserves”… is she implying I don’t give her attention??
Over all I think it’s stupid to end a friendship especially that involves our daughters over a couch. I told her that we’re sorry for not taking it last minute and that we didn’t mean to do it with ill intent and even offered to get rid of it for her. And to keep the peace I didn’t mention the comment about my daughter and simply said I don’t appreciate the items she OFFERED us to be thrown back at us. If I would have known it would be a problem I would not have taken them. I value friendship over items. Anyways she doesn’t care and wants nothing to do with us now. But I can’t help but feel really upset and irritated and hurt by her comments and this whole thing. I hardly ever get close to anyone or make friends cause of dumb stuff like this and it especially stings cause my daughter loves playing with her… ugh idk. Did I do the right thing by not addressing the comment?
Also forgot to mention the day she was over my place and I told her I wouldn’t be taking it she ended up leaving with 4 of my daughters stuffed animals saying if her daughter could borrow them and I said yeah cause we will see you guys again.. funnily enough we haven’t seen them and now I’m wondering if her intention was to just keep them all along. Which is upsetting cause those were gifts from my family members.