Contraception

Hey! I’m currently 6 weeks postpartum. I originally declined contraception as I haven’t been on it for 2 years before pregnancy and my partner was debating a vasectomy. He’s now changed his mind which means I’m going to have to reconsider contraception :/ as we definitely do not want anymore babies. I originally stopped taking contraception as I have tried the pill, the implant and IUD. All have messed with my periods and made them really irregular, longer bleeding etc and affected my intimacy with my partner which, after waiting so long for postpartum bleeding to stop, I don’t want to have to deal with again! I guess my question is which contraception have you guys used which least affected your periods??

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My favorite was Nuvaring, for whatever reason it didn't mess with my periods like the pill did. I couldn't feel it at all during sex, but my husband isn't exactly big 😅 so results may vary on that lol
Is there a reason your partner doesn't want a vasectomy? If you're done having kids, it really is the best option imo 😬 my husband got one right after our second was born, my dad got one after my youngest sibling, and my brother got one because he and his wife don't want kids at all.

Thank you ladies! Will take these ones into consideration 🫶🏼 would be so much easier if he would get the vasectomy but unfortunately he doesn’t want to go through the pain of the procedure! 🙃

My brother was super scared of the procedure because my dad had complications (that was almost 30 years ago though). They put him under sedation for the procedure because he was so anxious about it. Both he and my husband came through with no complications, and the recovery pain wasn't nearly as bad as they expected ❤️

the pill and the implant did not work for me at all! im super unreliable at taking pills at the same time every day and the implant messed with my periods caused weight gain and sent my moods wild! ive found the best contraceptive for me was the injection, you administer it yourself now and lasts for 3 months without having to worry! id definitely try talk to your partner again but if hes dead set against it id recommend the injection x

I totally understand him having fear around the idea of a vasectomy ❤️ it is a procedure with the risks that come with that, in a super sensitive spot lol. But if you look at it, childbirth itself is a bigger and more invasive medical situation, not to mention all the potential side effects of hormonal birth control. That's the big reason my husband decided to get snipped

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The entitlement of the funded childcare hours will depend upon when we return from maternity leave: government funded hours starts on the official terms (September for autumn, January for Spring, and April for Summer). Based on my research the earliest we can apply would be for September’s term and if we want to have the funded hours from then, we need to go back to work on or before 30/09/2027. So if you leave to go on maternity leave in October and take the full year off, returning only on October/2027, you will become entitled to the funded hours only from January 2028.
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The man eventually starts saying you don’t contribute and that he has to pay the bills and mortgage on his own. Saying you never have any money but when you explain WHY you don’t, he doesn’t get it.

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As much as I want to make friends I find it so hard. That from time to time I forget this app just because it’s been a hit and miss with it. I’ve connected with some cool people but then there’s the mean girls I don’t have time for that. I’m grown and I can’t sit on my phone all day. Life always happens and I do get super busy at times but doesn’t mean I’m not a good friend or wanting a friendship. Anyone else have this problem? Or if you can understand and feel the same let’s connect? I do want the friendship just not the drama of I don’t text back right away 😂

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